I totally know what youre saying and I have tried to work on my marriage. It takes two and my husband doesnt feel there is anything to work on. As youknow, us Leos are very outspoken so its not like I havent addressed my/our concerns in our marriage. He wont go to couseling, he doesn even want to talk about it. I have been left to feel unattractive and have lost confidence when I know I shouldnt and that im not unattractive. As far as his situation, hes been married a long time as well and had grown apart way before I came along. we are just riding it out till the kids get older.