Dear Puds,

I can totally understand where your at, my daughter at that time 20, was involved with her room mate, which end up the same way. I'm sorry to hear that. Though I moved her home with me it was still very upsetting. As I was married to a Libra, my advice would be to TOTALLY ignore him, act as if your doing just fine, get on the phone when he's around, and have others call you at those times and laugh like there's no tommorow, ask him politely when he's leaving, as you have a potential room mate moving in. You can put a ad on Craig List or look at that for a room mate or a place to live. You being a Libra you put your heart and soul into a realationship where as he doe not appear to care at all. God says to love your self 1st, take back your heart, and move on, there more out there, and you certainly deserve it! Take care, I will say a prayer for you!

I was with, and stayed with a man for 10 yrs., who was also in prison, for as he said, petty larceny, and told me he was only in for 18 months, later after it ended, I found out it was 4 years. The realationship turned to him being "controlling" all the time, but I had "blinders" on and didn't want to see this as myself I didn't want to be "alone" and had, by that time NO self esteem and no confidence in myself. I had gained 40lbs, was drinking quite a bit and was very unhappy, though the "sex", and I say, sex, was great, there was No intimacy. My advice to you is to first look inside your self, You need to take control of your own life, as I didn't want to be alone, I had 2 small girls, I felt I couldn't make it on my own, and was in a very bad "place" in my own head and heart, but God says, we Have to Love ourselves first! Take care of "YOU" 1st, he is and always will be a "con-man", let him go, get out while you can, if necessary get counceling, there are many free places to go, God has a special plan for you. Be thankful that he has not "taken" you for everything you have, and if he has, YOU still have your self and your self respect and dignity, these are values and morals, roles may change, values and morals are in you and in your heart. As my grandma would say.."Their's other Fish in the Sea!" Look at your past experiences and see maybe what's keeping you from Moving ON! You deserve better! Hope all goes well for you! I'll say a few prayers!!