2xoxoxo8, you are a true Cancer. I love it!
The reason why so many get defensive, have hurt feelings or insult is because your words touch a truth that is too much to bare or they are not ready to see.
If any of you posters have gotten snippy with your Cancer interest or had an emotional tantrum, that is one of the main reasons they have backed off.
This happens so often and I as a Cancer am not offended by the negative opinions. It just saddens me because what you find so complicated is so simple to me. If I have tried to tell an interest how I feel or how I do things I'm usually met with negativity or demands. Confrontation is better avoided so If I have not developed any real emotional feelings, then this is my que to start asking questions or start to float away.
It is not that Cancers are indecisive, on the contrary. Once we have made a decision about something or someone there is really no stopping us. We just have to be sure and that is why we observe and often for long periods of time, giving many chances. No, you'll probably never figure out what you did wrong because you are probably not even aware of half your actions. Which is obvious from so many of these identical posts. Cancers pick up on subtleties and intentions that can't be hidden, though we may be blind to our own.
So many trying to convince themselves, "It's not me, it's him."