Posts made by CrabbyMoon

OMG-AstraAngel-you're killing me here, lol. First...I almost feel like you might know me... both my friend and I have dabbled in including others in past relationships-but we have never done it together. I honestly don't know how I would handle a jealousy factor-if one were to pop up. It would seem to me that there would need to be a strong relationship with my friend first-before adding 'someone to balance' us into the mix-no? And if I am reading correctly-you are saying to include a third (or fourth) partner....as a member of the relationship....not just for sex. THAT is a whole 'nother ball game-no?

Holy crap AstraAngel-that is an amazing reading and your interpretation is insightful and so so so well thought out. How can I even thank you for putting that kind of time or energy into that? You don't even know me and you did that for me....thank you.

I wish I could be as straight forward with my friend as you suggest...but I really spooked him with my comments about no commitments. We were intimate on several occasions and I backed off after that because I don't want to sleep with someone without it being monogamous-and I had already set the tone for that whole conversation by swearing for the entire time up until then that I was not looking for a 'relationship'. I didn't think I was :(...and then I fell for him. He did tell me then that he felt more for me than friendship but that I sent him very mixed signals by what I said.I was such a flustered dope and too protective of my feelings that I was the one who suggested we stay friends. UGH. I don't even know how to get myself out of this mess-because while we ARE communicating....it is simple and friendly. No innuendo or flirting at all. FWIW-he's a cancer as well.

Anyway-thank you, thank you, thank you again. You are amazable

If so-I appreciate any insight...I am not sure what I should do next-

I met a man this summer and we hit it off instantly. We had an immediate connection. I have a huge fear of commitment and he was aware of this. Despite that-I could feel myself starting to develop much deeper feelings and felt myself distancing from him-from fear? I'm not sure.....we discussed it and he said that my various comments about commitment had made him nervous-and I had freaked myself out as well. We cooled down and decided to stay 'friends'. We email for the most part and keep each other updated with our lives...I would say he initiates the contact 75% of the time. I feel like I COULD make a commitment to this man-but I don't know if there is too much water under the bridge or how I should proceed-or not....

Thank you-for any guidance you might be able to give me. I hate to let this slip through my fingers if there is any hope-and I also hate to wait for something that might not even be there.