I dated an Aquarius for about 2 yrs, we knew each other before we dated. I'm a Cancer, with my moon in Aquarius. I suppose we had a lot in common. The need to "get away" from time to time. Privacy and freedom important to us both. It was odd at times how much we were alike. We had some of the same hobbies, enjoyed doing some of the same things. We would even meet up for a date and be dressed in the same colors. Our days, even thought apart, would be similar. Doing the same kinds of things and so on. We would laugh about how weird it was and we seemed to get along great. We thought the same way and valued the same things. At one point we both realized we were both "alphas" and like to be in control of certain things. We were both in leadership roles in our careers. Both independant and self sufficiant. There was of course some differences as I was a bit more traditional and shy. He was more expirienced than I. However, there came a time when there was this unexplained tension between us. I was'nt sure where it came from! I was not a typical girlfriend and did not want to be. We were both divorced and not wanting to play any games I decided to respect his freedom and privacy. I gave him a lot of space. But the tension was there! Maybe he read my body language and noticed I was uncomfortable when he would never make plans to see me, it was always up in the air with stuff like that. He would call and say hi, have conversation and then say "well, talk to you later" and when we talked about this he said that my silence created the tension. I, however, was confused as if I thought he might say "lets go out" and I didnt want to intrude on his space so I wouldnt ask him.

It continued like this and I started to think he wanted out of the relationship. But he kept calling, seeing me, looking for me. I just sat back and waited on him. If he wanted to see me, then he should call me, and he would.

Then it seemed that he started to dislike me, his behavior changed back and fourth. Just when I thought I would never hear from him again he would invite me for lunch on an out of town day trip. Or he would be very sweet and tender, other times he would avoid me like the plague.

I was eventually hurt by his inconsistencies. He moved for work purposes and he pressed that we stay in contact and insisted we had a strong connection and should remain close friends. We stayed in contact for almost one and half years via email and phone calls. But the last I heard from him was six months ago and he has yet to reply to my last email.

I have left so much out but it was good to write these words and vent a bit. I dont know if I will hear from him again or not. I sometimes ask myself why I care and continue to think about him? Has he totally detatched? Or is this his nature as an Aquarius?