judyheart.... not every virgo person falls into your discription of Virgo people have this need to succeed in life and have really perfect lives. They are fortunately given all the equipments to achieve this divine purpose given to them from birth; they are given intelligence, and tenacity, and relentless drive and ambition, so naturally when they dont misuse any of this; the natural result is career and financial success. but not all of them follow this path. some get diverted growing up and somehow manage to mess up their lives; they lose their dreams and end up as nothing.
i myself came here due to a complete a!shole of a virgo male, i myself am a virgo woman, yes i can try to be perfect if i choose to be, but hell i'll be waiting a while, i also work but for balance only, i could be a single parent working 6 days a week, but i find that balance has grounded me, given me truth in how life is ment to be lived and im happy, us virgo woman have all the makings and thoughts of a virgo male but there is one thing i know, we never act on them, im simply not stupid enough and there is the difference, im not stupid!!! and ss dump the new vir heal yourself, get strong, you have slight brain wash from a man who has been a control freak, the only way is to go it alone, with good support of course, move forward and realise not all men are that way (vir way of course) stop trying to replace what you just lost because you will not be satisfied, ok rant done, feeling ever so slightly better now