hi kiwpe, any advice for me still confused in Nj. i apologized on sunday tuesday i said i did not put my file up and i would never block him because that was a question he asked weeks ago.. yesterday i went on line and saw his profile up again. i guess he is really done. i emailed him told hm i saw him on line. no response. i text him and asked the question didnt u tell me u deleted ur profile? i just really want to explain some thing to him because i think we had miscommunications as my psychic reader had said last nite and things would be better i had high positive energy but not now for some reason. Any take on what i should do. I text him around 2 pm and said its important that he call me because i need to explain something to him when he got the msg. Should i go over to his house and see him face to face. what do you think. or leave it alone since he said we were done last wk.

aqua thats makes sense. Do you think that applies to my situation? actually we both said we wanted this to work and to move forward. i believe that he will call because like u said if he wasn't interested in the first place i wouldn't have even been in the running (sort of speaking) Is that what u r saying ? Last week he said to me if he didn't want to date me he would tell me but because things got a little crazy i believe and maybe im being too optimistic and positive but i like to think so he will think about me being there as a friend and a support. What do yu think.

Sure u have, ur attitude and ur words were harsh not sincere at all. Attitude? i don't think so honey and i don't have issues u do. No im not angry. best of luck to you though u are going to need it. obviously u r not happy with yourself because u wouldn't be talking to people the way u do if you were and thats my perception.

thanks Noodles im a cappy. u know i think u right. i did get an unknown phone call two days ago. he number is blocked because verizon screwed up. when i went to pick it up the person hung up and i thnk it was him just to see if i blocked him or not. . i did tell yesterday in text that i did not put my profile back up and i will never block him. He and i made a pat to take our profiles down because we wanted this to work. i do and i think he does too. last week was just so crazy. He is divorced since 19 Jul but his marriage was over 2-3 years ago. his xwife is an alcholic and he shared something with me last wed whereby he lets things slide because she was told 2 years ago when she was in the hosp that her liver is not good. he said the rate she is going it wont be too much longer. but what she is putting the whole family through by leaving msgs on his phone, calling the house upsettting the kids. it certainly bothered me because it upset him and we talked about it all the time. Sunday i text and apologized and told him what i did thursday was wrong and ultimatums are not pretty but s aid just remember i was there for you and he knows that. He is off next week and made semi plans because i was off one day this wk and moving it to his week to do something together and this happened. Last friday is when i reminded hm of the plans we made and thats when he said we are done stop.. Do you think he will still call me.

i tell u what-- are u all adults> do you normally speak to people in that manner. . I find aqua and gemtwin to be a little harsh in your wording. thanks but no thanks for your advice. I told you i know what i did was wrong and i apologized. 1) he is not fresh out of a marriage if you read my notes i said its been a few years he said it himself if was over and wants to move on. 2) His x wife is not clinging to him she is an alcholic and a sick woman. I like him very much and im not obsessed. Ur an idiot for even saying it. i am there to be his support and he appreciated it. last week just got a little out of hand. Grow up obviously u too are not happy with yourselves.

Can anyone give me some advice on what to do in my situation Pls!!!

Gemtwin what do you think about my situation can u shed some light as well?

i understand my panic and know what i did like i said what is done is done but i apologized lets move on. i know he said he is done but on the other hand my cell rang with an unknown number which could have been him calling. Two of my friends said call him and just ask to see if he had called because an unknown number had showed up. People do change their minds are u saying he wouldn't call me again.? we both agreed a week before we would get past this and he wanted it to work, he said it him self. but it seems like every time she called chaos started and the tension that any good mood we both had just dissipated because of his stress. So i ask again because he is off next week-- do you think its wise to go over his house to see him and talk to him face to face?

Anyone pls help!! i never dated a cancer man before and this had been an experience. i met this man online 3 weeks ago He got divorced Jul 16. In short we talked on thephone the 1st wk, we went out that weekend sat, sun and then on Tues. His x wife is an alcholic and is a lunatic. All dates were great we got along fine. the problem is his xwife. she calls him, the house, the shop where he works constantly. im involved indireclty because i told him im here for you to give support and listen. The 2nd week things got a little too crazy and i was really thinking about stopping the madness in its tracks and didn't know how to say it. we spoke all the time about what we are going to do plans etc. Like i said we got along fine but one problem was the tension btwn because of the xwife. If he got upset because of the things she was doing i heard a bout it. I could n't sleep a few nites and lost a few pounds. I felt like he really didn't want to pursue helping the situation by changing numbers to avoid all the mess. Finally i raised my voice and said this is not good for ur mother, the kids any one else involved he complained to me about it but did nothing to fix it. He said he was going to block her number on the cell but instead they blocked his. He is lack in doing things and a little slow im not but im very patient. Well i saw him this past wednesday things were a little cool after not seeing him for a week. I watched the baseball game he barely kissed and touched me different from two weeks prior. Thursday i didn't hear from him at all. I thought something bad happened and thought the worst. by the evening after leaving a few messages. i left a msg telling hm he either calls by friday morn or his is through, the end. finito and i will be putting my profile back on the website. Well i tried getting him in the morn on the way to work but nothing. he leaves me a text msg telling me he lost his phone and got it back that morn and said after hearing ur msgs pls dont call me. im not sure i actually believe that he does come up with some dillies though. My msgs thursday were not nasty they were of concern to him. He knows i am there for him. i guess i got a little upset to say the least. I left msgs friday to tell him why did what i did and said but nothing. Im not sure why he is taking this personally i tried to apologize. What should i do Anything

Acqua, ok, thats great and i think i know where u are coming from. i guess the other thing when i did see him that nite a week ago he was cool towards me and not like someone who hasn't seen me in a wk as he said just that morning. He wanted to see me.. There was space between us on the couch. he seemed very nervous. Maybe pushing buttons weren't the right words. our first date/meeting i had a salad. we went again it was late i had another salad. the weekend he went away with the kids to the NASCAR he was in hotel with water park in it i said that would be something to see he told me i wouldn't like because they didn't have salads. I said what about the Blue claws stadium he said u wouldn't like that because it didn't have salads. i thought he was just picking a fight or something. he said we don't eat the same i didn't care really. he really unnerved me at that point. When i saw his older son he is 15 and is about 250 and he is big. The nite i saw him he had a bowl of popcorn, m&ms and he wanted chips but because i don't eat them he said it would be rude if he ate them in front of me. i told him i eat all kinds of food not everyday. He told me he wouldn't date anyone 300 pds and he said not to be mean. and this is what says to me about me eating saladsand it hurt my feelings. i don't eat salads all the time i eat healthy something he doesn't do thats why his kids are fat. he knows that. i can't change people's habits. but what i said to him was he hits 300 pds he floats down the river by himself. that might have been mean but hey he can dish it out but apparently he cant take it. One more thing: yesterday my phone rings unknown he is only person whose number comes up unknown and i let go through because the phone service blocked both his number and his x wife's. Anyway i picked it up and the person hung. do you think it was him trying to call me? i did apologize sunday and i said i was wrong but i said what is done is done. i also told him keep in mind i was there for him. he is off next week i thought i would call him when he was off to see if he would pickup the phone. I do miss him not his antics though. we got along great for the time we had it was just a bad week last week too much drama. What do you think Aqua???