I have been with a cancer man for 1 year and it was the worst relationship of my life by far!!! I am a gemini and before I met him, I was a very detached person and unemotional and not very sensitive. He really changed me and brought the sensitive side out of me. Everything was so good at the beginning. He did things for me no one else has ever done. He brought me gifts everytime he came to see me. He was very affectionate even in public. He was very creative and fun to be with, and he wasn't bad to look at either.
After a few months I started to see his true colors. it started out with the mood swings. He would start a fight over me leaving a pair of worn socks in my kitchen floor in my own apartment. And then over the fact that I eat meat. He doesn't eat meat and the first night I met him, I asked if he would date someone who does and he said no, but then he asked me out, makes sense right? And then it was the ignoring and pushing me away by telling me he was seeing other people, but came to see me every weekend and still sleep with me. By this time I was hooked. I wanted to show him that I could be patient, loyal and loving so I chose to put up with more bs than I should have. Then the lies started. I'm a very intelligent person and can tell when someone is lying. I figured out he lied to me about many things, to this day I still know very little about him, I don't even know how old he is. He refuses to tell me.
After about 5 months with him things seemed to get worst and worst. We fought every week there was a new fight. He refused to answer any of my questions, but asked me questions and expected answers. I put up with him because I was used to it. I would complain to other people and no one would understand or sympathize. I was miserable, but I wasn't strong enough to leave.
When he told me he had slept with other people and hit on other people in front of me, I reached my boiling point. he still slept with me and told me he liked me and couldn't understand why i hated him so much. Yes, I started to hate this person for all he was doing to me. He knew that he was torturing me, but wouldn't let me go. I tried to ignored him, but he kept harassing me. I tried to leave him the last 8 months of the relationship.
He finally met someone else and is giving that person more than he gave to me. The last time we had s.e.x. I asked him if he was seeing anyone else. Then I found out he was in a relationship and in love with the other person, but I didn't get any of that info through his mouth. I told him to leave me alone for good or I would tell the person he's with that he slept with me. He finally left me alone and we haven't talked since.
It's been 3 months and I'm still hurting so much. I have cried so much within this year. I actually thought it was real and I wanted to believe so bad that it wasn't all just a lie. To this day I still don't understand why I still think about someone that I hated so much and did me so wrong. I did nothing but tried my best to love him and he tried his best to torture me.
Reading some of the posts here really helped me feel peaceful. I know that one day he will feel what I feel. He kept telling me that he did nothing wrong to me and that I felt hurt cause I chose to feel that way. I really hope one day he will get what he did to me, good or bad. I am scared for life and my wounds will never heal.
When I see people with relationship questions with cancer men, I was there. I made post asking questions about them here 8 months ago. Now it's a different story. I wished i should have run as far away from him as I could. He is the only person in my life that I regret meeting, and I've met lots of jerks, but non of them compare to him. He was the sweetest devil in disguise. I will never open up to another cancer man EVER again!!! I know another cancer and he is the exact same way, but we are just friends. Liar and a cheater. I'm only speaking from experience. When astrology said that cancer men are romantic, sensitive, loyal, creative, it forgot to mention that they are also liars, cheaters, super possessive, self absorbing, games playing, and immature!