I do find that for all my atempts to be "my own woman" that I still see the "taurus" in myself. Some of it I embrace and some I try to work around.
my uncle K has given me some great advice that i am working at taking to heart.
"you are responsable for your own feelings"
seems simple, but there is power in those words...
No one else's opinion of you has any meaning unless you give it a meaning, no one can see into your heart but you.
If I insisted that your shirt was green and it was really red, would that change how you feel about your shirt or would you just know that I was mistaken or maybe due to blindness(color, in this case) that my opinion was skewed?
if your family is blind that does not make you any different, it just makes it harder for them to see you.
Are you just hanging onto something because you are used to it?
If he feels that bad (and he should) let him get over it in his own time. Be open to him getting back to you when he is over himself... that having been said, if you don't ask him to meet your needs you can't expect him to know what they are.
Seemss to me I have read about you two before and I got the feeling he was hiding something then. How did that ever work out?