Hi, you sound a lot like me. I am a young woman in college, and slowly, but surely, I am beginning to feel more about a good friend of mine. Right now, we don't spend much time together, because both of us are very busy most of the time, and I am sort of trying to avoid getting hurt again. I honestly think the guy I think I am falling in love with is a good person, but right now we are just good friends. I haven't known him very long, but when I am with him, I feel like I have known him my whole life. He is a really sweet guy, but he just broke up with a girlfriend he had in high school, and I kind of feel like maybe he isn't interested in me that way. I am a pretty shy person, and don't show my feelings much, but the more I am around him, the more happiness, and respect and so many good feelings, I get. I feel like even though it seems like he might like me, and a lot of people think we would be good together, I feel like I shouldn't take the risk in trying to have a further relationship with him. I feel this way, because I don't want to lose him, I don't want him to be out of my life forever, because he does seem like such a wonderful person.
Anyways, what I am trying to say is, you seem to be a lot like me. I think maybe you don't want to ask him because maybe you just want him to be in your life forever. I feel like maybe you would rather have him in your life and only be friends than lose him completely by taking the chance and having the possibility of losing him. It honestly seems like he really likes you, and the two of you are good together, but I can see why it is hard for you to choose whether or not to take a chance at furthering this relationship past friendship. Maybe, considering you have known him for so long, maybe if you really want to have a relationship with him, past friendship, maybe now is the right time to ask. Alhough it is completely up to you- you have the choice to take the risk and have the possibility of a better relationship or not take the risk and feel comforted in knowing you will be at least friends with him for a long time. I honestly feel, though, that this may be a real case of true love, and in order to reach full potential, risks must be taken sometimes. All in all, though, it is completely your choice and whatever feels right to you is what you must do, I would say, weigh the benefits vs the risks and see which one outweighs the other, and make your decision based on that. Good luck.