I was in the same situ as you regarding men, in general. I've been "relationship free" for the past 5 years, due to changing my life around and going back to school to get my degree. It's been a good journey and I have to say, "hooking up" has been the last thing on my mind. Now, I'm rethinking things. One thing I have learned never "settle" for anyone. Things usually happen for a reason and when you're not looking, romance seems to fall in you lap!