Posts made by ChouChou

2xoxoxo8 said:

"Taurus - yes there is something wrong with your perception especially on how you project/show others even pretend to your bf that things are ok when it is not just to be nice and keep the peace. That's one step to unhappiness - pretending. "

I have to totally agree with this post 1000%...... I probably would have never agreed with this a few years ago..... I am on another learning curve..... and this statement stands so true....

If you do not express yourself in order to maintain peace... You are pretending that it is all roses... when it is not...... No relationship will survive this acting... You need to be yourself... and find a way to express your disatisfaction with whatever... Just saying

BTW.... I have been just out of my Cancer's reach for over 4 years...now.... I walk away from him in early 2008 due to his showing me disrespect..... I will not take him back with open arms... until he shows me he is ready for a real relationship.....

Until then.... my life goes on..as it always has.... I don't change for him... he needs to come to me...on a proper footing.and meet me halfway.... He choses to hide in his shell... Not my problem but his...imo His loss. as they say.

He still tries to play his BS games.... but doesn't get anywhere with me...

He know how I feel about him.... and he also knows I will not bend over for him either. I don't ever want to be a doormat, booty call or a play thing. Just saying

All I can say to all of this....is WHEN WILL YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.... HE CAN'T BECAUSE YOU DON'T......

Get a grip... and stop over compensating.... You cannot ever win his love by this type of action.... Find out who you are... Know what you will or will not accept.... Stand your ground... and be prepared always to walk away... with you head held high...

Right now you are a booty call... doormat.... someone to play with... like a mouse

Where is your self-respect and/or self confidence in all of this..... You do... and you get ZERO in return from what I have read.

Read some books on the dynamics of men and women in relationship... Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus...... Why Men Love Bitches... and The Manual... to name a few.... They all say the same thing... in different ways.... They can also be very funny to read at times.

Good Luck

Thank you Captain... already been there... done that as they say.... imo.. he knows me like a book to a point :)... and I know him the same way... YES... we are/where great in business... together.. We so complemented each other as well as protected each other back in the day...

He has reared his ugly head back into my life this year..so to speak....... hence why I am here now.... So it all makes sense to me.. at the moment... Time will tell which way this one will go... in the end.

I have been plenty patient to a point... however I have not let him off the hook...when he chooses to disrespects me... or attempts to play mind games at my expense... I just cannot be that sweet.. and accept his BS.. without calling him on the BS he sends my way.

Back in the day... I was the same...and imo he had accepted it..

In conclusion:... What you say make total sense to me... however I know it is not a done deal.. because as a Leo... he will hear my ROAR until he learns what it takes to be with me. I just won't put my life on hold for him... until he can prove to me.. that he is worth it... Check Mate..is not an option... at the moment.

I told him and meant it back in the day.. that he was the only one I was willing to take a back seat to... For a Leo to say that and mean it... takes a lot... imo.

Only time will tell where this will go... My life won't be changing... because of this ambivalent man... imo He needs to make a decision.. in order for this to ever move forward in a positive way... It cannot be a one way street.. as they say. That would never work..

OH.. I just discovered this thread.... Captain... Please advise... on the compatibility analysis of Mr. Cancer July 19th and Miss Leo... August 19th.

I have read some of the advise you have given Captain... and it seems to me to be very helpful.

You give very sound advise... and hoping you can enlighten me... as to what we have or don't have between us.

Thank you

ChouChou

I wouldn't hold my breath of getting any answers her...or anywhere else for that matter.... I have asked similar questions.... to no avail..

Stop contacting him... could help.... His mental abuse.. or (mind games) you need to throw it back at him... Stand your ground... no matter the cost...

IMO.. you should show him/it... that you really do not care.. which way it goes.... You want what you want... and be totally prepared to walk away.

Good Luck.

Dear Flowsco

I stand corrected ... Thank you... and I understand. Be safe

Where is the edit button???? Oh my lord... Hope you all can put the proper word to the last post... lol

Flowsco You said above

"I personally think it has to do with the maturity of the writer. If they after asking their question fully understand what is going on within their own lives and relationship. Everyone want instant gratification and life isn't about that. Never is and never will be."

Let me tell you that I am a nanosecond away from retirement.... He came after me and not the other way around. I kicked him to the curb... and continued to do so... for over 4 years now... I don't give a crap$ a$$ if he ever comes around... His loss.. and he knows it... at this point...

I have told him umpteem time to go elsewhere.. ie.. take it up with some other women... because I do not accept his game playing... Pure and simple.... He needs to make a decision and either move forward... or leave me alone... This is also plain and simple....

I have ZERO problem... stating what I feel.. and act upon it... accordingly... He on the other hand speaks from both sides of his month... Just saying...

We have Never Ever been physically intimate... yet he continues to try to get in touch with me...Why????

imo.. he needs to get on with his life.. and leave me alone... But No.. that is no the way he operates apparently....

Please tell me how to rid myself of this Cancer Child????ince you are so enlightened in this area..Just saying... I need answers!!!!

Don't ever be concern about competing with someone else.... I never have... In fact I told mine many times to take it up with someone else.... because unless he wants to be with me... I don't ever want him anyways....

I broke up with him..or walked.. sending him to the curb over his disrespecting me.... He continues to come for me... for what???? That is still TBD...But Hey I carry on with my life.. and imo ... he can go seek out some bimbo... His choice always...

It does not mean it doesn't hurt... however I am of the opinion... that unless he really want to be with me ... I just don't care to be with him... His loss... BTW.. at this point he knows that...

If you fret... over his behavior... you are showing that he is in control of you.... Show him a different side of you....The one that shows him... he doesn't matter... one way or the other...

Never Ever compete with someone else for his affection... You will lose every time..... Instead take the high road... and send him into someone else's arm... You know Hit/Miss relationships are a dime a dozen... Just Saying...

Good luck.

Well if I could get my Cancer guy to communicate at all... That would be a start in the right direction..... If/When I do see him... him tells me everything that is going on in less than 15 minutes.... and then leaves me with "Talk to you Soon"..... That statement alone... may mean that he will talk to me in 25 years or so.....

No this is definitely a Cancer problem... and not mine... I have asked on a number of occassions.. to have time to get past our trust issues.... Which he brought into our relationship BTW..... Trust was never a problem before he decided to disrespect me......

Totally 100% his doing...in my case at least... I know it and he knows it... Just saying

Shuabby

Yes... I know.... that ... our relationship in 2007 early 2008 was based on me propecting him at all cost... He learnt a lot from me during those 12 months... Our relationship is on record as being a magical one... I have never is all my years... had such an intense connection to anyone before.

I sort of believe that he needs me somehow... in his live... To continue to protect him... I am much more thorough about legal document stuff... and being able to discuss with Lawyers, Accountants and Government Agencies... I know their lingo...

All of that tho does not take away the fact that he actually drives me crazy..... lol.

OK... Maybe I know what I need to do... because I surely know he will be back.

Thank you for being so kind in your response... So I am not totally loony... HA!

Captain... feel free to add you coments... to this... I find you to be very enlightning.

I told him in July after his usual BS birthday calls... from obscure numbers... that I did not want to here from him unless he is prepared to come clean and have a real conversation.

I have also told him over the years...to please take it elsewhere.... ie.. get another women... I told him that at least twice this year... after he pi$$ed me off.. with his nonsence... Just saying...

I really do not care which way this goes.... I just want him to make a decision and follow through with it accordingly....It is almost like he is fence sitting..or something. Don't know... I'm assuming... this at the moment... Since he can't seem to communicate his real feelings...

BTW... this year.. he started leaving me with "Talk to you soon" The last time I saw him at the End of September... after he said this... I turned and asked him "Would you define Soon?" His response was Whoaaaaaaaaaa.... It can be. WTF.. I now refer to this as mental masterb@tion... all at my expense. Just saying.

Hi All,

Well I have tried to get insight on my situation to no avail.. I am new on this site... So here's my story.

Got a new client in February 2007... This young Cancer Guy...and I got very very close over the next 12 months. He was in upper management. He pursued me throughout my time there. We fell deeply in love.... I knew it and he did too. We knew what each other was thinking without words being spoken. We could finish each other sentences... I knew stuff about him... I should not have known... I wrote it off to us being together in some former life...or separated twins.. or whatever... It was just too strange.

A year later... I called his bluff which he had stated a number of times... that after we get through blah blah blah... We would talk about our relationship. He disrespected me.. by stating.. "I don't know where you are coming from" I walked and kicked him to the curb that day.

A little more background... We have never been sexually intimate... however we have been verbally intimate in stating what was on our minds.... We have not kissed or even held hands... We just knew... that there was some cosmic magnet pulling us together... We went through all the intimacy cycles...without getting physical.

Fast forward now 4 years later.... He has called me around his birthday every year since I left... He never leaves a message. I have Questioned this action... however got no response... I have kicked him to the curb... more times than I can count on two hands.... due to his bad/disrespectful behaviour. I had not spoken to him since March 2008 which was business stuff.... However I have sent him e-mails in response to BS calls he has made to me... Yes he heard my Leo ROAR loud and clear. I have been very open with him... in my communications... Some loving and some NOT so loving...Direct and to the point.

I had not communicated with him in over 1.5 years... and had moved on with my life.... On Christmas day 2010 at 9:02 am... I received a TEXT... I don't do texting crap.... It came in from an unknown number... I just knew it was him... I let it go. I suspected he would try again on New Year's even though he had covered that the week before. Yup it came in around 11:00am. I still did not respond..but still knew it was him. The next day Jan 02/2011 I sent him a cryptic response which I knew he would remember... Hence I had him by the B@lls... so to speak. Yup it was him.

This year we have had a number of chance encounters... which I refer to divine intervention.... He picked up the phone once after he received a text stating "Meow meow Purr" I know he is afraid of me... Most likely due to the intensity of our connection to each other.... We I have seen him.. we never talk about us... but he will tell me everything about what is going on in his life within less than 15 minutes. Yup his grandma just turn 93 lol.

I have been patient, loving, pi$$ed at him at times.... but what I don't understand ... is why he even bothers to contact me... if he had not made a decision to move forward in the 1st place. It like he take 1 step forward.. and 100 steps backwards...

I have always had the attitude of show no fear... and say whatever I really feel. He was already accustomed to my Leo Roar... since 2007.. hence he already knows.. that it is short lived...

What to do with this Child in Man's clothing????

Hi everyone.... I am new here... and just testing the waters... Unlike SunScope I managed to find how to change my avitar... mmmmmmmmm