2xoxoxo8 said:

"Taurus - yes there is something wrong with your perception especially on how you project/show others even pretend to your bf that things are ok when it is not just to be nice and keep the peace. That's one step to unhappiness - pretending. "

I have to totally agree with this post 1000%...... I probably would have never agreed with this a few years ago..... I am on another learning curve..... and this statement stands so true....

If you do not express yourself in order to maintain peace... You are pretending that it is all roses... when it is not...... No relationship will survive this acting... You need to be yourself... and find a way to express your disatisfaction with whatever... Just saying

BTW.... I have been just out of my Cancer's reach for over 4 years...now.... I walk away from him in early 2008 due to his showing me disrespect..... I will not take him back with open arms... until he shows me he is ready for a real relationship.....

Until then.... my life goes on..as it always has.... I don't change for him... he needs to come to me...on a proper footing.and meet me halfway.... He choses to hide in his shell... Not my problem but his...imo His loss. as they say.

He still tries to play his BS games.... but doesn't get anywhere with me...

He know how I feel about him.... and he also knows I will not bend over for him either. I don't ever want to be a doormat, booty call or a play thing. Just saying

All I can say to all of this....is WHEN WILL YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.... HE CAN'T BECAUSE YOU DON'T......

Get a grip... and stop over compensating.... You cannot ever win his love by this type of action.... Find out who you are... Know what you will or will not accept.... Stand your ground... and be prepared always to walk away... with you head held high...

Right now you are a booty call... doormat.... someone to play with... like a mouse

Where is your self-respect and/or self confidence in all of this..... You do... and you get ZERO in return from what I have read.

Read some books on the dynamics of men and women in relationship... Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus...... Why Men Love Bitches... and The Manual... to name a few.... They all say the same thing... in different ways.... They can also be very funny to read at times.

Good Luck

Thank you Captain... already been there... done that as they say.... imo.. he knows me like a book to a point :)... and I know him the same way... YES... we are/where great in business... together.. We so complemented each other as well as protected each other back in the day...

He has reared his ugly head back into my life this year..so to speak....... hence why I am here now.... So it all makes sense to me.. at the moment... Time will tell which way this one will go... in the end.

I have been plenty patient to a point... however I have not let him off the hook...when he chooses to disrespects me... or attempts to play mind games at my expense... I just cannot be that sweet.. and accept his BS.. without calling him on the BS he sends my way.

Back in the day... I was the same...and imo he had accepted it..

In conclusion:... What you say make total sense to me... however I know it is not a done deal.. because as a Leo... he will hear my ROAR until he learns what it takes to be with me. I just won't put my life on hold for him... until he can prove to me.. that he is worth it... Check Mate..is not an option... at the moment.

I told him and meant it back in the day.. that he was the only one I was willing to take a back seat to... For a Leo to say that and mean it... takes a lot... imo.

Only time will tell where this will go... My life won't be changing... because of this ambivalent man... imo He needs to make a decision.. in order for this to ever move forward in a positive way... It cannot be a one way street.. as they say. That would never work..

OH.. I just discovered this thread.... Captain... Please advise... on the compatibility analysis of Mr. Cancer July 19th and Miss Leo... August 19th.

I have read some of the advise you have given Captain... and it seems to me to be very helpful.

You give very sound advise... and hoping you can enlighten me... as to what we have or don't have between us.

Thank you

ChouChou

I wouldn't hold my breath of getting any answers her...or anywhere else for that matter.... I have asked similar questions.... to no avail..

Stop contacting him... could help.... His mental abuse.. or (mind games) you need to throw it back at him... Stand your ground... no matter the cost...

IMO.. you should show him/it... that you really do not care.. which way it goes.... You want what you want... and be totally prepared to walk away.

Good Luck.

Dear Flowsco

I stand corrected ... Thank you... and I understand. Be safe

Where is the edit button???? Oh my lord... Hope you all can put the proper word to the last post... lol

Flowsco You said above

"I personally think it has to do with the maturity of the writer. If they after asking their question fully understand what is going on within their own lives and relationship. Everyone want instant gratification and life isn't about that. Never is and never will be."

Let me tell you that I am a nanosecond away from retirement.... He came after me and not the other way around. I kicked him to the curb... and continued to do so... for over 4 years now... I don't give a crap$ a$$ if he ever comes around... His loss.. and he knows it... at this point...

I have told him umpteem time to go elsewhere.. ie.. take it up with some other women... because I do not accept his game playing... Pure and simple.... He needs to make a decision and either move forward... or leave me alone... This is also plain and simple....

I have ZERO problem... stating what I feel.. and act upon it... accordingly... He on the other hand speaks from both sides of his month... Just saying...

We have Never Ever been physically intimate... yet he continues to try to get in touch with me...Why????

imo.. he needs to get on with his life.. and leave me alone... But No.. that is no the way he operates apparently....

Please tell me how to rid myself of this Cancer Child????ince you are so enlightened in this area..Just saying... I need answers!!!!

Don't ever be concern about competing with someone else.... I never have... In fact I told mine many times to take it up with someone else.... because unless he wants to be with me... I don't ever want him anyways....

I broke up with him..or walked.. sending him to the curb over his disrespecting me.... He continues to come for me... for what???? That is still TBD...But Hey I carry on with my life.. and imo ... he can go seek out some bimbo... His choice always...

It does not mean it doesn't hurt... however I am of the opinion... that unless he really want to be with me ... I just don't care to be with him... His loss... BTW.. at this point he knows that...

If you fret... over his behavior... you are showing that he is in control of you.... Show him a different side of you....The one that shows him... he doesn't matter... one way or the other...

Never Ever compete with someone else for his affection... You will lose every time..... Instead take the high road... and send him into someone else's arm... You know Hit/Miss relationships are a dime a dozen... Just Saying...

Good luck.