I understand why your friend would not want to disrupt the family unit, especially if there are teenagers. I also understand her frustration in not having the emotional/loving support that she needs. I feel that her present problems would only increase if she separated. I don't know how you feel about kids, but some men have issues w/them taking away the attention. Their father must supply enough support to the kids in order for her to stay. I am not saying that you would not welcome the kids--it's just something to think about. It's part of the whole picture. Right now, your attention and concern is centered around her, but it's not all about her. There is a family involved. It also seems, to me, that the husband isn't involved w/anyone. If he was, I feel, it might be easier to make a decision on her part. I feel this is a union that will cause you pain. I think she is doing the right thing by trying to keep her family intact. But if there is a lot of discord in the family, the kids will feel and know this too. I would not demand her to make a decision. I would pray for the best outcome to this. I hope that you can make something good from this. The decision may be yours to make in the long run. Best wishes.