Hello Electrum, being a teenager and going through social issues is one of the toughest things for a young adult. I like Dalia's questions, I think you could help us to help you if you could fill in the blanks. However, it sounds like your drifting apart from both relationships, and that happens a lot of times when two people in a group develop a relationship that may or may not include the group. Or jealousy changes the dynamics of the group. My daughter had this come up a time or two. When a teenage group forms whether its a church group or club at school, sooner or later someone is going to become attracted to another member. And often there are multiple relationships like this, which is ok, except when they start to cross, lets say this the person you are interested in is now interested in another or this person is being given a hard time about seeing you. Im assuming that by the way you described your invlovement with this group you could be one of the newcomers. Which is usually the underdog, and is harder to be accepted by everyone, key word is everyone. Because some will be jealous of you if you have instant favor by others whether of the same gender or not. Thus friction, and often being pushed out of the group or the sense of dripfting apart. Then there is just good old fashion everyone can be mad at each other for liking each others boyfriends/girlfriends...that is the shorter version of the problem. So, what am i saying, i told my daughter that in a perfect world dating within a small group of friends would be ok, but its not a perfect world and two someone's are going to date and someone else is going to get their feelings hurt. So its best not too. The group obviously was formed for a reason, and that reason should be the topic of conversation and gathering. So, again, what am i saying, iI agree with Dalia, if the cause of the group is important, then stay with the group, focus on its cause and tend to the cause. If there have been hurt feelings, go to that person and appologize, tell them your sorry if you hurt their feelings and that it wasnt your intentions...plus its a great way to being accepted into the group...then see what happens to your other relationship... you should at least work on staying friends...for the cause of the group...good luck

Hello all, this virgo male is all over this one...Everything Dalia said is true...except she left out one very important, well lets say two, very important Virgo traits. We usually have a caregiver mentality and not as tough as most think, although critical, its mostly of ourselves that we are the hardest, which all of that added together means we can really be quite insecure. And usually very gentleman like which makes us drag our feet and not let you know how we really feel in fear of being rejected ourselves. Often it will take a very forward personality to jerk us out of a hidden shyness to open up and let you know that we care more than being very close friends...see its very safe for us to be a very close friend, its kinda like loving you from a distance...and even though you may feel that you have let him know how serious you are he may very well still stay back where his is safe and in control of his out of control emotional state. Thats how we Virgos stay focused, organized, on time, etc. But, and i do mean But with a capital "B" , If he does let go, open up, let himself feel something, and falls in love, and admits it...look out, you may very well have a wonderfully attentive sexually hungry and totally insecure man up your gazo 24/7, who may also lose his ability to do all the other traits that i just mentioned...So make sure this is what you want....oh, by the way, that was the second trait... i recommend buttering him up with flattery in regards to his work, or projects, or tell him your neck hurts and you need him to rub it, and then make a big deal about how much it feels better, with the virgo man you have to blow everything out of proportion when it comes to flattery...and try to very slowly recruit his emotions for you...its not that we are self centered its that we are self critical and it takes a lot of extra words to make us believe we did something good enough. Even telling us three times is better...so after the neck rub, thank him and make lots of moaning sounds that sound like it feels good, smile a lot, act surprised when you say it feels better, then mention it in the morning, because the moaning sounds may have worked very well, then brag about his massage to a friend, when he is listening...his insecurities will be deminished and you will be his biggest fan...a valuable assest to a virgo...Good Luck

I assume when you say that the universe is reminding you of him, you must meant that you see him everywhere, in everyone, and everything reminds you of him and the time you had together. I dont seem to have read the reasons that you ended the relationship. And you may not have said, but if you made the decision because of red flags, and you recognized them as problems, then you should be commended, but, recognizing problems doesnt mean that it feels any better. You were brave enough to make a decision that was healthy for you. And if you get back together or had stayed the chances are that the issues would only get worse. Most red flags are serious differences or issues with the other person. And as two people get closer they also become more comfortable with being open and frank. This will most often lead to arguments then often another split up ending on a negative note. It takes two very mature people to make a good relationship work. Now, after saying all of this, I know that you dont necessarily feel any better, and you may very well cry some more, but you will learn, you have sharpened your intuition with this. It was the single most hardest decision you will ever make, maybe. But the hurt always goes away, and if your young, you will have more heartaches,

and more broken hearts, but they will eventually go away, and wil do so in time related to how long you dated. But dont shut down, stay open, except the way you feel about him at the moment, cry a lot if you have to, then go about your way and plan to let him go, shred letters, pictures, make a ceremony if you have to, design the memory you want to keep no matter how big or small. But in that memory record the red flags so that you can recognize the flags early on and avoid the hurt. Because believe me, there will be another and he may be the real soul mate. And i do know hard this is....im doing the same thing right now...wish i could follow my own advise, It takes a lot of emotions and logic to do it, but you can learn to save you heart, looking for your soulmate...hang in there, it will get better, and you will be happy

I was introduced to a beautiful woman in Dec last year, after a bit of small talk it was easy to see we had a conection. The unfortunate problem was that she was married and was living in a failed relationship where it appeared the only reason for staying together was for her children. It appears her husband while not happy either was remaining for the same reason. Her interest in me was for filling that personal void, conversation, love, etc. We enjoyed each others company, i understood she had no plans to leave her family and was quite fine with it. Rapidly we hit it off, the Chemistry was unreal, and we both felt as if we had met our soul mate. I have grown to love this woman dearly, and she I. But she is reluctant to quickly make a decision to leave now, part of her wants to and the other dosent, if fear of damaging the children as well as our reputations, She comes from a broken home and knows how it affected her. I understand totally, we have tried to stop seeing each other but its impossible, we have considered seperating to give her time to make the split. But again cant stay apart. I dont want to push her because making a pressured decision would not be helpful, yet becasue of her resposibilities with her family, I find myself spending a lot of time alone, especially weekends. But the loneliness is for missing her, so dating otherwise is not a desire. The time apart is becoming not worth the time together, its becoming unhealthy, or i need to be more patient because of the situation. After all i was just as much a part of the problem, Can this work or will it leave a trail of dystruction