Posts made by CCbelieves

@Jenever7 Hi Jenever7 ! I've actually had an AMAZING love affair with a very "VIRGO-ISH" VIRGO.
I actually met his wife first! We'd just moved into a brand new neighborhood at the same time. They had 3 children the same ages (+/-)
as we did. I was actually in the process of filing for divorce from my husband, and didn't hide that from anyone I met because he was such a despicable drunk, I wanted to be known as being SANE enough to unload him!
She ( his wife) invited the kids and me to dinner knowing my then husband NEVER came directly home from work, but visited several bars on the way. At this point, I'd not met her husband. As we prepared to serve dinner in walked the most BEAUTIFUL man I had ever seen! He turned me into a blithering idiot. I could barely string a sentence together! I headed for the loo to compose myself , returning more normal. At dinner I tried not to look at him, but whenever I peeked he was staring at ME, his food untouched. After the unbearable meal we took the kids outside to play. It was the first time I'd seen his wife's attitude toward him and her little ones. She bitched at him about his faults all evening. Things like "I ASKED YOU to get an increase on our (some bank) Visa! We NEED FURNITURE, expletive, expletive expletive...."
Go get (child in middle)!He's been AWFUL ALL DAY! "He needs a good smack. I told him you would take care of it. He took middle child in a little hug and asked what he'd done. The child had no idea. He said" Wife, what happened? " When she " couldn't recall, he kissed the kid on the top of the head and sent him back to play. She became ENRAGED. It was as if she didn't know I was THERE. She called him emasculating names, called the middle child over, pulled his sweats down around his knees and hit him, open handed & on his heiney 4 times. The hand mark was there for 5 DAYS!!
Today, I'd have called D. S. S, but this was 1987,and we lived a very sheltered life. I met parents who left their sleeping children ALONE , regularly to go out for dinner or "clubbing"!We just hoped children in these situations never knew.
Back to our "dinner" .After the awful beating I said "It's getting dark, I'd better get them bathed and in bed. I thanked them for a great dinner and SHE INSISTED he walk us home! I pleaded NO! I was fine.. but he was walking me home. On the way he told me she'd been in psych wards 3 different times because while she LOVED the lifestyle he provided, she , in the recesses of her heart, hated HIM! My heart broke for him. I gave him my background. He wanted a divorce but was afraid for the kids.
Over the months he came to my lawyer with me several times who suggested to him that he include in any divorce decree that he stipulate that in his absence a nanny with mental health background be in the house to maintain civility.
But a judge would make him pay for it. He didn't care-he could leave her! Which he did. We were both divorced 6 months apart. Mine came through last and I was single for 6 days before we married. She was a CONSTANT PROBLEM. Phone calls, drive bys while shouting obscenities loudly out the window, mail threats to "kill me, then my " brats",She was arrested(& soon released) dozens of times. We actually moved to another state and STILL SHE CONTINUED.
WE just celebrated our 30th Anniversary.
It has been a heavenly marriage. We had our own child in 1991,and he is a Virgo like his Dad.