What you've been doing for the past month, the changes you've made are what I've been doing. He's been seeing it as selfish, untrustworthy, and very negative. I'm afraid that maybe he won't see the light in this situation. Lol, I hope a Gemini reads this and maybe will give some perspective as well!
Anyway, thank you shadow. I will no longer be his doormat. He will either accept that this is positive or stay stuck in his ways and I'll be my freedom loving sag self by myself, which I am truly content with that outcome as well.