I also wanted to add something that I am feeling in my body every time I think about it….
This past weekend I travelled for a date with this gentleman…I was excited for the evening…it went well, good conversation, etc.
That morning he had helped moved in a friend into his spare room temporarily because of her unhealthy living situation. Prior to that day, he had asked me my thoughts about it, and I simply said, that he needed to do what he thought was best. I didn't have any reservations or problems with this.
After our date, he invited me to see his apartment. Once inside, it became very awkward and after a half and hour, the woman asked to have a private conversation with him. I didn't hear most of it but heard something about him saying he had loved her. English is her second language. He immediately came out of the room and implied that It was best if I left. (even though, before that time, there was every indication that i was spending the night) ….and it was at that time a very late hour. I felt confused, upset and frustrated….
Several conversations with him, he expressed how humiliated and embarrassed he felt and that it was a misunderstanding, language barrier and he addressed and resolved the situation. I asked if he had a prior intimate relationship with her and he said they had gone out on only three dates last year (she has been in the country for 6 months) and he was never intimate with her. He also shared that he had told her that he was helping her because he loved and cared for her as a friend. He also mentioned that when we entered the apartment, that he had noticed an empty wine bottle and that may have explained her behavior…even though, I noticed that she was not exhibiting any signs of being intoxicated (she walked normally, did not slur words, and was drinking tea).
This is what I am currently experiencing….last Saturday, I brought this occasion/woman up and my stomach became upset…today, plans were suggested for another date this week, and every time I think of this roommate and of seeing this gentleman, my chest becomes tight and my breathing is not full. I get a sense that I am either not receiving an honest story or I am imagining the two of them being intimate, which is unlike me to do.
At this point I am wondering where this response is coming because of him or because of his new living arrangements….
I would appreciate any help Captain.