wow, sounds like I just may be the last woman alive that still carries a soft spot for men, cancer men in particular. While I am all for self respect, I also feel that you can't get to the truth of what is in someone's heart unless you put yourself out there a little. Maybe I have been blinded by the love of my life, but I feel he is totally worth it and I owe it to myself, as do you, to continue the pursuit of all things love and happiness related. He maybe a player but he may also be just as confused as you and doesn't want to be responsible for hurting the feelings of the women he's torn between. Not to say you should let him off the hook for his insecurities, just hold out long enough to see if its worth it to you to do so.

Oh to love a cancer male! I believe the name given to this sign is as perfect a representation of it's relationships as any. Not that the love of a cancer male can't be well worth it, but it is never easy. Not easy to read and even harder to forget. I have been in a relationship with mine for 2 years now. I use the term relationship loosely, as does any female who finds herself enamored by the illustrious cancer male. Many times I have tried to end it because I love him so much and am so confused by the overwhelming intense feelings I have that it scares me. I have never felt this way. My advice to you, if you love him give him a little space right now. It sounds to me that he may feel for you but is unsure of his feelings as well so he is retreating to his comfort zone, the ex. Not too long though. You won't hear from him first, but don't get discouraged. After a couple of weeks send him a bottle of whatever he likes with a note that says, "if you should ever miss me...". Cancer males love attention and to be spoiled. But leave it at that. Don't call him. He will call you. He just needs to be wanted, but he also needs to feel like he is in control. Good luck!