good for you! i knew from what you said in your posts what this guy was doing - i've been put through it too many times not to see it when you described your situation. i'm sorry it happened to be a cancer - not all of us are bad people. he just seems to be one of those emotional cripples with waaaay to many issues in his life that he keeps denying exist. dont ever let yourself be someone's 'back burner' you're way to good for that and dont forget it!

best of luck with your next guy - he could be right around the corner! never know...

Hi thanks for the time! My fav color is dark lapis lazuli blue

blessings!

Not contacting or responding is a good thing - stick to your guns girl! I know it hurts and you may have a few more sleepless nights but in the long run its what needs to be done. Let this one go for your own good. Sometime down the line you'll find someone who loves you without condition or a bunch of silly excuses to not be with you. I was friends with a different guy since kindergarten and I know he loved me more than I loved him - I didnt want to lose his friendship because he was so important to me and I didnt want to lose him due to a failed intimate relationship - it might not have failed but I was unwilling to try for my own personal reasons. I've lost touch with him now. I miss him a lot but its my own fault.

Your cancer is unwilling for the same reasons most likely. He's not going to change his mind. He's going to keep looking for 'grass is greener' and continue to hurt you. Maybe one day he might grow up - men do that slower than women ya know! But why wait on a 'maybe'?

Live life, find that mind blowing love thats out there waiting on you to be receptive to it. LA is a big town - date, have fun, keep yourself busy and pretty soon you'll be wondering why you thought he was all that anyway! Or why you thought you werent worth being loved by someone worthy of you.

best of luck and love to you

cappylove, I read the thread and as a cancer woman who has some experience in the world of cancers (!) let me say that I agree with both aqua and barbara - to an extent.

is the man in question a good looking man? you say you've been intimate and he said what he said - so why isnt he with you? and more importantly why do you want him when he so obviously is putting you on the back burner so he can play around? We cancers are cagey - i have put someone on the back burner for years because I was trying to find 'something better on the other side of the fence'... lets just say that friendship withered away after much resentment on his part - and rightly so. without being mean - why are you so desparate to have this one guy? calling you everyday doesnt mean anything - it could be a power play - it could also mean that all he will ever want from you is a friendship - esp after being intimate. I told my 'back burner guy' that I loved him too - and i did - but not in an "I'm in love with you" kind of love - but mostly to keep him hanging on so I could have someone to spend time with when my other 'grass is greener' things fell apart. he didnt meet all of my silly 'requirements' that I've since put to rest - but he was great to hang out with...

he also sounds like he has serious trust issues - mostly with himself. got burned and now he doesnt know whether or not to trust his own judgement or if he can trust another with his true heart...

dont put your life on hold while he gets his together if it was meant to be it would've been a done deal since you're both available now.