Hi,thanks captain,hers is November 11
don't rreally know the year,mine is july 20 1981
I really need some help here,i am a cancer man,and i met a scorpio woman,and at first it was mind blowing,her way of expressing her self was intriquing to my brain. She expressed to me that i make her feel comfortable and special,and that she is hooked with me,and that she misses me alot. Now we arranged a meeting,we talked and talked,for hours, then we ended up kissing. Now after that,her behaviour changed,she became a bit closed,not so much talking about us,but more like a bit more typical. Now i asked her what is wrong,and she said that i was too fast,she wants things to be easily going(By the way,before we kissed that night,she said she doesn't know if she is ready for a family,and that her idea of true love is,the man to fight for what he loves)So i said to her,what do you mean slowly,it means alot of things,and that can also mean,for me to back up,not to express my feelings anymore,stop showing you affection,and she said,well you can do it if you feel so,and i said,you know what,i don't care if you mind if i care for you,i will do,and she said i care about you too. Now my mobile broke down,so i didn't spoke to her for one day,next day she was extremely private and distant. So i gave it a few hours and i said i know something is wrong,so tell me,and she said,it has nothing to do with you,its about me,you wouldn't understand,and i also told you take things easy,and i said to her,no,take things easy,and get distant is another thing. Then she replied with a smile and said,well i dissagree with you,but never the less,would you go out with me for some ice cream this saturday?And i said there is a game i want to watch,and she said,well it won't be easy for me but we can work something out,and i said look.i don't know what time it will be over,so i don't want to promise things and not cope up with it,she said ok. Now after that it was the girl i knew,intriguing to my brain, yesterday and today,then at some point,she became again very distant and typical. I was online on fb and she send me a message,i answered back,she was still very distant and typical,and at some point she wouldn't said anything at all,i asked her what was wrong,she answered with a question what is suppose to be wrong,so i said again tell me,she said i am not in the mood,so i message her back saying well i will wait for a message of you,and she replied well i am going out tonight so we talked tomorrow,and i just said fine(Cause she never done that before,is the day of the game)So i am wondering,is she testing me??It seems like it,but a scorpio woman would know more i guess,so i really need to know,if she is just testing me,i will have my patience and wait till she is done,or if she is not i would just walk away
By the way,i asked her if she is still hooked up with me,and she said why wouldn't i be.
I can't understand my libra GF, i met my libra GF 4 months ago and i guess,by my part it was love at first sight. She was sceptical about it first so i took my time to win her heart (I am cancer).From the begining she was sceptical about 4 factors that where negetive in our relationship, distance(she lives 100 Kilometers away)money(she is unemployed and i have a medium wage) differend characters,and my positive aproach in all this subjects and other subjects. We talked about it for this whole months but nothing much,she would just pass a few words,i would try to comfort it and she didn't continue the subject. For the past month i have noticed a change in her. All though before she would phone me constantly and shut her computer to talk to me and begged for kisses,she became distant, most of the times she would be chatting on her pc not giving me attention. So i went to see her,she tried to cuddle me but i withdraw, then when we met in the car i told her what was bothering me, and she said that her logic tells her to brake up with me but her feelings doesn't. So i said to her look if you just tell me that it is something you must do but can't i will ask you to,cause i feel i cause more pain then good in your life, then she kissed me and said, everytime i kiss you all this problems go away, but when i am not with you i want to brake up with you. And i said to her then i don't want to meet with you face to face so i don't cause you this conflict. And i left, Few days has passed and the more she was chosing with her attitute the brake up option, so i called her up,and continuesly asked her to tell me what to do. She was saying the same things that where bothering her all this months and as times goes by they became more obvious, i asked her if she believes we should end it, but she didn't answered and i aksed her reapidently untill she said yes,but she did try to change this answer by reffering to several things and several words like maybe its because i am very conserned by not having a job and i have troubles at home,and if they where not present i would of been more calm,and i said to her,would it change your decision?She said no,and i said then why are you reffering to all this,she tried to explain but she made no sense,when i asked her what is she is trying to say she said i don't know,i comfused my self as well. So i closed the phone and rang her an hour later and i said,lets talk tell me all those things that you say you can't cope with,she refused to say them, and i said listen, i ask you several times if this is this you said no is this that?you said no,for the name of God i am in this relationship with you and its only those things i am aware of,she said you started to make me angry so i shouted at her tell me cause i have the right to know. So she said we have differend characters, i am social you are anti-social,and i said to her what??I begged you to go out,i begged you to meet my friends and you never asked me to meet your friends,i never said no to you each time you told me to go out with you. She said we have differend tastes and differend opinions and you are obsolete, and i said i am obsolete?You never disccussed this things in this depth before and you said you told me over and over?No you where talking this things with yourself cause i had no idea. And just because i have differend tastes and likes it doesn't mean i won't cope,and i had cope with alot of thigs and i gave her examples to prove her that they where true, and she said well you are pretending, and i said i am not ,and also gave her examples. And she bypassed them and said,well i know at the end i will get bored of this relationship,and i said thats it. You accused me of never listened to you,in things you never said,you accused me of pretending when i don't, and because i don't like being accused for nothing, all the mood i had to stay with you now is gone,if you would like to call me again or come and see me come,but i am done trying...
I don't understand her,and i don't understand her behavour and her conflicts, when i went to see her the last time she said she doesn't come to see me cause she doesn't want to make her feelings get in the way of her logic,when i told her i want to brake up she said she doesn't come cause of the money,and also at the begining,she would cry each time she left and now she is distant,any help please?