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Thanks, MariaRia. I appreciate your advice. I thought about your advice last night and you are right. I am working on being able to move out and already have one part time job, but I want to continue my education as well and try not to compromise it. I would get a full time job and move out tomorrow if I didn't care about that, so I'm not 100% sure what I should do. Everyone tells me I should take this whole experience as a lesson, and I suppose they're right. And I will. I'm just not sure what the "lesson" is! Not to trust people? A lot of guys are bad and there's nothing to be done? I mean, I guess I shouldn't have lost my virginity to him. It's just he told me "We'll be spending the rest of our lives together" and I should not have believed him. And you're right about healthy relationships not moving fast. I remember he told me he loved me after we'd been dating like 2 weeks and I should have taken that as a sign. I remember I told him I didn't feel the same way about him yet, so early on, you know? And he was always dissing my mom. I mean, I did too sometimes, but that shouldn't automatically give him license to. I suppose another sign would be when he stopped caring about the way he looked around me. I thought we had just been together a while so he became less worried about that because before then he was always saying how "nervous" he was around me because he "cared so much". Ugh. Another sign he wasn't entirely sane was the way he talked about his children. I remember telling him once I wanted to help his son "be the best kid he can be". He replied, "He's ALREADY a good kid," like he didn't need my or anyone's help. He also spoils him and lets him get away with anything. Once the boy disabled the seat belt on his little brother's carseat and his dad didn't do anything except yell at him that it was wrong to do it. So any discipline is pretty much chucked out the window, and I fear for the kids for that reason. That's all the signs I can think of that I noticed. I guess now I just need advice about what to do about my mom, if anything, and how to work out my anger and pain issues. I really appreciate your advice MariaRia, and any other advice, insights, input from anyone is appreciated as well. Thank you so much.

Hey, Blmoon! You were right! When you said "this story is not over"! He came up to me and said hi yesterday at the coffe shop I'd always see him at. I congratulated him on the new job and jokingly asked why he unfriended me. He looked surprised and said he didn't know (he didn't apologize). He said "just re-add me". So I did and now I'm wondering if I should have. I was there with my brother when he came up to us. My friend didn't look so good. He had dark circles under his eyes, his shirt was very wrinkled, and he was there alone (he used to be surrounded by people whenever he was there). He asked my brother for a cigarette--my brother's only 15! (But he does look older than me, although I'm 2 years older. I realized after he left that it had been SO long since he'd seen my brother that he didn't recognize him. Anyway, just wanted to tell you, Blmoon, since you already saw that the story wasn't over. Thanks for your advice and all you do for the people on Tarot.

Thank you so much!

Sweetie! You are going to get lots of answers on this one I think....... Being an aqua myself I can say that things are going the way he wants them. Too much contact too early makes us feel confined. We subconsciously want to know that the other person is not “needy”, “clingy”, dependent on another for happiness. Keep in mind that there are also points in our life (many actually) that we just need to recover (down-time as some say). He may retreat for an hour every day, one day a week, or it may be a weekend a month. This gives us our time to regroup our thoughts, energy and to look ahead at where we’re going. Think about the lessons our past has brought to us. Know that you will be confused a lot getting to know this guy. We can change direction often and surprise you like no other can. I agree with previous posts, and say you should study up on Aqua men. But don’t forget his moon…..this may contradict some of the known traits of an Aqua, or it may just enhance them. Show an intellectual interest in his personality. This will interest him. And FYI: I currently have an Aqua man trying to set foot in my life. I find him interesting, handsome, and dedicated to his goals. I also find him high on himself, not able to show appreciation (I’m sure he has it..just can’t show it), and inconsiderate of others time.

You're right about him being a little arrogant! I got the impression a little bit that he was so afraid of rejection (a blow to the ego) that he didn't ask for my number. Also, I accidentally gave him my house phone (and not my cell--which is on the fritz--which is the number he probably expected). My brother told me someone called a few days ago and said "Uh...I think I have a wrong number" and my brother said "Okay, bye!" It kills me because I don't know if it was him! Also, I just recently got a Facebook. Should I try and "friend" him on it? Or just let it go? I'm new to Facebook etiquette to begin with...this is so confusing! Also, you're right about the Taurus. In another college class I took recently, I had an instant connection with a Taurus guy, but he seemed like a huge jerk at first who couldn't stand me, getting on my case during the group project we were in. But then later, after I got a new haircut, he asked "Did you get a haircut?" I replied, embarassed, "Yes. I hate it". And he said, "Aw, your hair looks nice..." I was dumbfounded! He also later said, "I don't mean to be mean. I'm sorry if I was before". The only thing is, he has a Pisces girlfriend--which he told me when I teasingly asked. So I didn't flirt or anything after that. Still, he'll be going to my same campus next semester; I might run into him. Thank you so much for your insight and intuition, xMermaidiax!

Too true!

hey cancergirl93 that question was exactly what i would have asked my bf who is also a leo im soo curious about him he makes me paranoid although im usually like that in realationships but i wrote on his facebook "i love you" and he deleted it his status is also set to single and we have been dating for a month and a half he says he loves me and never wants to hurt me its quite hard for me tobeileve this though but i try and make him happy all the time =] i really do love him