I know there is another thread right now about this same match but my situation is a little different so I hope it's not too much of a problem to ask again :).
I began speaking to a really wonderful Capricorn (cusp with Sagittarius) man about 4 months ago online (I'm a Cancer, cusp with Leo). We went on a magical first date, very casual and everything I've ever wanted. We both had a fantastic time, he even brought up how much fun he was having and he was all smiles the entire day, which lasted about 12 hours. He never called or contacted me after the date however, and I began feeling as if he didn't care and tried to drop it. Yet, I was so taken with him that I asked him out for another date (something that is completely out of my element but I really wanted to see him). We had another great date but when I tried to see if he was open to developing a relationship, he bluntly told me that he wasn't looking for one. I understood and didn't try to make much of it.
A couple of weeks later he went away for a couple of months for traveling purposes. A month into his trip, he randomly contacted me and we chatted for about 4 hours. We had a great conversation, I spent all night smiling from ear to ear. He implied that he missed me and couldn't wait to see me again. When he came back, however, he was quite distant and didn't even bother to contact me. The few times I contacted him, he either didn't respond or gave short responses. I again proceeded to just drop all contact and try to move on.
Last week he contacted me again, out of the blue. We spent another 5 hours just chatting, talking about everything under the moon and again, I was completely blissful. He mentioned during the conversation that he really wanted to see me, that he was anxious to do so. I was completely excited and, the next day, proceeded to have a short conversation with him. He seemed to be in a good mood and we had a nice little chat, until I asked him what he was doing this weekend. He never replied.
Why is he so hot and cold? Should I cut off all contact with him indefinitely? When he is with me and when he talks to me, he seems like he's tearing the barriers between us and trying to get to know me romantically. When I initiate conversation or try to follow up on his words, however, he doesn't reciprocate and leaves me feeling upset and betrayed. Can anyone help? I want to pursue this because he makes me feel like no other man has ever made me feel in my life, but I don't want to keep getting my feelings hurt and played around with.