I believe you are focusing more on astrology than common sense. I believe you are doing this because you are in denial. This relationship is not good for you or your children. You have an obligation to protect them physically, emotionally, and spiritually. You are being selfish by staying in this co- dependent relationship. Aries and Libras can be in a loving relationship ( my husband and I have been married for 16 yrs.) but you must be clear about boundaries and expectations. If either partner is not willing to work then the relationship won't work. I know this because the father of my first child was also a Libra born on the 4th. He lied, cheated, and thought I should be his mother. That relationship lasted until I became fed up and put him out when my child was 4 mo. old. I deserved more and so did she. Stop making excuses for him and yourself. Either you will accept his behavior or you won't.