Healing energy being sent your way. I hope you have a speedy recovery.
Downsizing the elderly would be assisting an elderly individual to go through their belongings, discarding what they no longer need, re-gifting, donation, or going ahead and passing items to their children so that they can move into a smaller home. In this process, you help them determine what furniture/items they can keep (basically what will fit) into their new home, usually a condo that requires no outside maintenance, or an assisted living facility. You then arrange for a moving van, pack up their stuff, and unpack it at the new place for them. It is a very needed service, as most people and their children become very overwhelmed at just the thought of moving an elderly parent.
That is what has been going on in my life. But just in the last month, really last couple of weeks, it has occurred to me that I no longer have to be anything or anyone that I do not want to be. It has been quite liberating. And, I have been toying with opening my own business related to elderly downsizing, hence possibly the "e" in your automatic writing? Yes, I am very creative, but never followed through with anything due to fear of failure. I had to be able to bring in enough money to help pay the bills. Now, it doesn't matter does it? No big mortgage payment, no husband to shoot my idea down, throw a fit if I am not home to get his dinner on the table. I am truly free!
In addition to school, work, drama with my child, getting divorced and putting the house up for sale and having to keep it spotless for showings, my father needed aortic valve replacement. This was a long process and took months for him to get approved for it, all the while his health declining. He has now had the surgery, but every time I see my parents (weekly) they are getting more and more frail. Every week I have to hear about this life insurance policy and that bank account, where they are to be buried, what they want to be buried in. which child gets what and so on. I just feel as though they are ready to end their journey here, ready to go home.
Also, he quit helping me pay the mortgage, so now the house is in foreclosure. I was trying to get it refinanced, but the payment will not be low enough, so have to let it go. This I was fighting. Also, my employer told all LPN's that we have until 1/2014 to be RN's or we no longer have a job. So, quite resentfully, i went back to school. But with all the emotional drama going on, it was too much for me to handle, hence i dropped out. Now, I will not be able to meet the time frame they are insisting on, so I am keeping my eyes open for another position.
okay, i have tried to respond twice. so maybe shorter posts will do it.lol. Going thru a divorce due to hubby of 10 years deciding he liked to watch my teenaged daughter shower. Then decided it was ok to reach into the shower and touch her abdomen. Kicked him out, had him arrested, and filed for divorce. He is very manipulative, emotionally abusive. Did his best to alienate me from friends and family.
okay, uploaded a comment a couple of hours ago, but still isn't up, so here we go... On March 1st, my teenage daughter informed me that my husband of 10 years had been going in the bathroom with her when she showered. (This is her step father). He has apparently been doing this for the last 3 years, but recently, he had begun to reach in the shower and play with her belly button ring. she stated that if she locked the bathroom door, she would be "in trouble". He admitted to this behavior, I had him arrested, and in May, I filed for divorce. Initially, he was sure that I was not serious, that we would get back together and make it work. No thank you, as this was just the straw that broke the camel's back. He is a recovering alcoholic whom had begun drinking again 5 yrs. ago. Very manipulative and emotionally abusive to not only myself, but my children and his son as well. Always insinuating that I was doing things that I should not be doing, as well as alienating me from friends and family. Nothing was ever good enough to suit him. Anyway, he has made this divorce very difficult, and now, my home is in foreclosure because he refused to help pay the mortgage. After 4 continuances, I finally got to go to court on Oct. 15th, hence the comment that I am no longer stagnant. I was fighting to try and keep the house but that is not going to happen, hence the "letting go". In the meantime, LPN's at our hospital that they will no longer be utilizing LPN's after Jan.2014, so until all this hit the fan, I had been trying to go to school to earn my degree as an RN. I was very resentful of being forced to continue my education, as I am 47 and really did not want to go back to school. Now, I will not be able to make the deadline my employer has set because I dropped out due to all the drama. So, I am keeping my eye open for a different job. Also, my parents, whom are 80 are getting more and more frail all the time, and every time I go to their house, they tell me where this life insurance policy is, where this bank account is, where their funeral home is and buriel plots. Since I have finally realized that I have nothing to fight over or for anymore (no mortgage payment, and no one to tell me I can or cannot do this or that) I have been toying with starting my own business related to downsizing the elderly, possibly the connection to the letter "e" in your automatic writing. I do not currently live with my parents, but as I said, my home is going into foreclosure and I am not so sure where I am going to end up, but with my parent's needing more and more help, that may end up being the logical choice. As far as death in friends and associates, there certainly has been a clearing away of numerous people. When you go through something of this nature, you sure do find out who your friends are! Anything else you could tell me would be greatly appreciated. Perhaps this information will help. Thank you again for your time and kindness!
I would very much appreciate a reading... Many changes have been occurring, some far overdue. I am specifically concerned with my current job, my home, and my parents. I know I will be losing my home, but worry about the next one, also, my parents seem very tired, wondering if they will soon be crossing over. I would like to be as prepared as possible for that. Thank you so much
After 7 difficult months and much malarchy from my husband and his atty., I finally got to go to court today for what was supposed to be our preliminary divorce hearing. Lo and behold, when i got there, my husband and his atty. had drawn up an agreement, we worked it over, signed it, and now my prelimianry hearing turned into a final hearing.... I am now divorced!!!!! Thank you Universe, thank you, thank you!!!!