Hey. Have been reading a lot on this forum and it seems like u guys have a lot of experience with these cancer guys issues. I was wondering whether you could help me with this. I have been dating a guy for about a month and in the beginning it was full on. He texted every day, asked me if I wanted to meet his parents, wanted to see mine, wanted me to meet his friends, wanted me to spend as much time as possible with him. After a couple of weeks he got quite depressed. Loads of bad things have been going on in his personal life and he got a serious cold. He is extremely stressed due to work and other obligations, but he was still texting me, only less and less. I met with him about a week ago, because I had tickets for a game. He came with me, he told me he was sick and he did not seem very happy. I talked to some other guys at the game, just talking about the game, and then he got a little pissed off. After the game he said it was ok, and I thanked him for coming with me but he was really distanced and did not touch me anymore etc. After that he did not text me for days. So after 4 days I texted him to ask him how he is, if he feels better and if I can do anything for him. He texted back, said he was very sick and stressed. We texted a little and he asked me how I was, but further nothing. Now that is 5 days ago again. Haven't heard anything from him! Nothing! I don't understand why there is such a sudden shift in his behavior. Even if he is sick and stressed at least he could text?
Now what do you guys think is this because he wants to solve his personal issues for himself and deal with it and will then contact me again. Or did he freak out because everything went too fast (although HE was the one who went fast and wanted things to be full on!!!!!!) and now does not want to talk to me anymore??? I don't know what to do.
Should I just not text him and leave him because he needs his space and sort things out and wait for him to come back to me??? Or should I text him in a couple of days just to say that I hope he is feeling better??? I'm getting kind of confused because some people say don't text him and he will come back to you when HE is ready. But other people say you should let him know really briefly that you are wondering how he is doing so he knows you are still thinking about him,
Some advice on this would be great because this is the 1000 time I have been hurt and it really makes me sad! Thanks!