Thank you so much for that response Captain. I really needed to hear (read) that on a day like today.
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RE: Captain help please; Pisces and Taurus Issues
Thank you so much for your quick reply. I definitely understand that. At times I wanna take back that time and just not let my rage take over. Taurus is known to be loyal and at the beginning I wanted to show this person that side of me. After 2 months of "mean girls" games towards me I feel like maybe I don't want to associate myself with someone like that. It's one thing to do something totally out of character and apologize for it. But it's another to try to get back at that person by high school treatment even after you accepted their apology. Now i know if this Pisces is actually speaking to me, it's only because they are tolerating me on a professional level and not to expect anything more if I see them outside of work. . I will continue to ignore the treatment and only focus on the job at hand. This was suppose to happen because I need to grow. This entire situation made me look at my past relationships and a lot of them has fallen off due to me taking things too personal and flying off the handle. Never like this current situation. I've came to realize I have my own insecurities to work on and started to not situations that bothers me build up to a point I'm mad as all hell and that person has no idea why. This is a much need learning experience I will take with me. Thank you again. I really need that perspective. Now I can focus and enjoy my birthday weekend in Prague with my husband. We haven't had a trip without our kids in 2 yrs so I'm extra excited.
Captain help please; Pisces and Taurus Issues
Hi Captain. It's been years since I last request your help. By the way, my Leo husband and I are much better. There was a point in my life where enough was enough and I started looking a separation papers. Now, he thinks of us as a family instead of just him, I learned alot about myself too which is have hobbies and take fun risks. We are having more fun now with 2 kids. Yes, he loves his daughter to pieces.
The reason why I need your help is more on a work relationship. My question is how to deal with a Pices who holds a grudge even after you apologize and turn to teenage like behavior to get under your skin. I always read Pisces can hold a grudge but after awhile they're nicest makes them come back to the normal them. Well, the way this person has been acting, it's more of who they are and not their sign. This is what happened.
I work with a Pisces, their moodiest was taken too personal, I blew up on them on a public (private) forum mistakenly. This was not suppose to be sent at all but with computer glitches was. This person saw it, was hurt and I apologized. Deeply. It was not in my character to do such a thing. After that, we had a very professional relationship for a couple of weeks. The little chit chat was gone but this person didn't treat me any different, no attitudes or anything. I commended that grown up attitude in this person. Now their Pisces friend was a different story. The friend would invite all to do a activity, even people they talked about behind their backs, just to make me feel left out.. Avoidance even if it entails work. To me, this other person acted like a child, just as what I did but I learned from it. Well, out of nowhere the Pisces I hurt requested I work with another person, and started to do the same thing as her Pisces friend. Teenage like behavior. The last bit was a invite to the entire office, but not me. Me being a Taurus, having my buttons pushed was really hard for me to not react but I figured that's what got me in this mess in the first place.
So I decided to take the higher road and focus on my goals and being a better Taurus. I lost 15lbs during this time with clean eating and working out my stress. Every little thing they do, is to get a rise out of me and so far I just let it roll off my back. I felt like I apologized and meant. Lets move on. I do not give an attitude, ignore them, or treat them indifferent. I do respect their space so like the other Pisces, she doesn't say hi to me, I don't say hi to her. But when it came to work, she would try to use another person to tell me what they wanted. I want to believe this is not a Pisces trait but that persons personality. What I have noticed is this Pisces who I've hurt will have a pleasant attitude when talking to me about work issues, but let their friends do all the childish crap.
Now, just recently they're giving the same respect when it's only dealing with the job. If they need anything, I'm always there to help even after I hear them talking bad about me. Taking the higher road feels good and the guilt is disappear because of their antics. I'm starting to think it's not even about me anymore.
Is this a way a Pisces act when they want nothing to do with you? Do they hold their grudges till the end? What i don't want is to give space to someone like this but then they take it as I'm ignoring them. That is not the case at all.
I hope this post made sense. Hope to hear from you soon.
Codependency with me Taurus and my Leo husband
On st Patrick's day weekend I found condoms in my Leo husband pants pocket at 3 am. He was just getting back from going out with the guys while I was home with our 5 yr old and 1 month old baby girl. He admitted he felt left out and wanted to find intimacy with someone else but still love me. Out 2nd child Luna was not planned but I (Taurus) knew tha we can make it work as long as we sticker together. My Leo husband was very angry and took the entire pregnancy to start accepting I will not have an abortion and that will will have an addition to our family. During this time he said he wanted to have some control and cheat. I was making all the decisions and he felt we weren't financially ready to have another kid. He told me when we moved from Italy to germany(we're a army family) that he had a chance to cheat but didn't. Then he got big headed because of all the attention he's getting from the German women since he is a dj. We had sex at my 6 week post partum and he still took condoms with him looking to score with someone else. I'm going to counseling while he's out in the field till June and I realizes all he problems I had with him. But instead of putting up boundaries on him going out every weekend and staying out till 4 am I say it's ok cause he is a hard working soldier. I'm starting to see I make excuses for his selfish ways. We finally got a joint account him not wanting one for years and would always put up a fight. Now he says he wants to change and noticed he has took advantage of me the last 14 yrs. married for 9yrs. But I realized I let that happen and now looking to try new things. He always want to go on a trip alone and says I should do the same just to get make a sense of me. But I never did. Now I'm looking into flights for Barcelona but u believe he doenst think I will go through it. He even said he wouldn't mind if is stayed out past 3 am but that only gives him a pass to do what he wants. I'm at the poit of seeing what my marriage really is and feel he doesnt want to be married br he doesn't want to be single either. I'm just tired of trying to get quality time with him and him always thinking about himself. I love solitude as well but I understand I am a mother and wife. Should I just end this? I thing he'll be good for a couple of weeks and then want to go back out to the night life without even inviting me all over again. I'm at the point where I'm starting to put myself first for once. Yes my husband is a free spirit and I do not want to take that away but he's just inconsiderate at times too. I don't know what to do. Right now I'm just focusing in how I let this happen, and if I deserve better.
RE: Can someone do a reading on me?
I am at a lost of words. You are...simply amazing!
Hubby and I had another argument last night BUT it was me over analyzing everything. SO finally heard me as well instead of getting all defensive. I also thanked him again for all the effort he has put into us the last week or so.
Good news, he did simply procrastiate on getting the info on the Ski Trip and without me saying anything he admited that he wouldn't of gone if we couldn't find a babysitter. That meant the world to me to hear him say that. We are finally on the same path together.
I swear i was told marriage took work but you never really know unil your in those shoes. It's so worth it though.
I can't thank you enough!
God bless you,
RE: Can someone do a reading on me?
Thank you so much for taking the time out on my reading. I great appreciated. Wednesday my SO invited me to a Ski Trip with his unit but he wasn't enthused at all. I did remember a friend of my said if he loves you he'll do what you ask but won't be too happy about at first. It'll take time for him to come around. I used the "I" statements and told him how I felt. We did argue and just stopped taking about it. I was making myself so sick on analyzing every excuse he had and how he took advantage of my self esteem. After that i just signed up to more activities on base and with my co workers. My attitude was if he wasts separate social lives then I'll give it to him. There's plenty of other ppl who would love my company privately or in a group gathering.
Right after that day, SO changed overnight. Well, I started complementing him on the small things he does around the house, told him how much I loved him, and just show appreciation instead of nagging all the time. It worked. He's telling me about the Army Ball and a Thanksgiving dinner at on of his co-workers house. Instead of us going straight to the computer after our 2 yr old son goes down for the night we'll watch a movie or just talk more in-depth about our day.
He still puts on a face secretly when our couple friends call and want to hang out. SO thinks I want him to be romantic like them and that is not the case. He won't admit it but I'll just show him over time. As long as I keep doing my part in showing appreciation towards my husband we will prosper. If he goes back to his old ways then I will make that leap and leave.
Either way I"m ready to live a healthier lifestyle with our without him. I've quite smoking a year ago, keep junk food out of the house as much as possible, strength training 3x a week, and started my savings nest. I can only show him how serious i am with my new attitude.
Thank you again Junemoon!!
RE: Can someone do a reading on me?
@ jimmy4: I'm not astrologist but the same situation happen to one of my friend. He did run away because of past hurts as well but it was after a few months when he made peace with himself they got back together. I think that worked for them instead of bring extra baggage in their marriage. Good luck with everything you do and I love your "taking control of the situation" attitude!!
RE: Can someone do a reading on me?
Hi Junemoon, I see you are so busy with everyone asking to do a reading for them and I had to jump on the bandwagon. You know your stuff!
My D.O.B is 4/27/1978 6:03am and I just did my tarot reading from Karmic Situation not quite sure what it means.
I'm 31 yrs old and finally value myself, who I am, and know what I want in life and my marriage. In I'm seeing that sacrificing for my goals. I want to build a financial nest egg, say "no" if I can't afford, adn not rely on a credit card or loans. I'm very big on stabitlity and more so since I'm going through this maturity. After losing 50lbs, landing a job, and quite smoking I'm feeling way more confident and know I deserve respect.
My husband is not growing with me. He rather go out with his work friends than invite me which he would never admit. In the past I felt I needed to be by our son's side always and allowed him to stay out till 3am because I wanted him to be happy. I told myself I was too fat and had nothing to wear so why bother. I feel totally differently now and excited about the way I view myself but my husband..not so much. He's in the Army and we have been stationed in Italy a year ago and it seems like he wants us to have separate social gatherings. I asked him to let me know and even invite me to his unit get together and last night he did..but soo unenthusiastically. Almost like "oh my wife gotta tag along and she's gonna ruin everything" attitude. Of course he apologized but he will not admit that he just doesn't want me around unless it's a couples event.
Sorry such a long winded post but I'm stressing out and about to do exactly what he wants. I'm starting to get the attitude eventually I will connect more with someone else either it be a man or women and then he'll want me around more. I'm just so hurt. If you have time please help me.