Posts made by boop84

He is a Virgo 04/09/1982

I'm a Gemini 10/06/1984

We have always had a very close/flirty working relationship/friendship, we have everything common, really understand each other and have a very deep connection with we've both acknowledged.

Anyway since Christmas we have hooked up a few, very drunken times, which I hate myself for as he has a girlfriend (it's a really bad relationship but that's no excuse I no). However things always stayed normal before us until last month.

He split up with his girlfriend and made it quite clear to me that he wanted us to be more than friends/co-workers, which surprised me because I always just thought it was a drunken hook up, but given the connection we have I was interested to explore where that could go, then he suddenly gets back with his ex.

I told him that his behaviour had been hurtful towards me, but that I respected his decision and (foolishly perhaps) I thought everything would go back to normal between us.

Things were fine between us at first but over the last week things have been getting more awkward between us, I have just been myself around him, I have tried to be less flirty, but normal and I have started seeing someone else. But he seems to be putting up a barrier. We would always go shopping for work stuff together, and now he avoids taking me at all cost. We would always call each other darling or sweetie (I do this with everyone) and suddenly he will call me by name or nothing at all, I'm quite a tactile person and it's nothing unusual for me to put a hand on someone's arm but if I do that to him I can feel his body tense up. When he was out the office for the day we would always be on the phone with each other now he will only send a text if he can and only send one word responses.

I can't stand how awkward things are becoming between us and I really want to resolve this issue. I completely respect that we need to be less flirty and will no longer allow situation where me him and alcohol are in the same place. But his complete change in behaviour is really bothering and confusing me.

So I guess what I want to know is Does he no longer like me as a person? Does he regret going back to his girlfriend and not seeing where things went with me? Should I talk to him and clear the air about how I feel or should I just stick my head in the sand?

I may not have helped things last week, a friend of mine died and I did push him away and he seemed really angry when I did that.

He also can say things that are really cruel sometimes.

He has just renewed my contract today, so he is not considering firing me or wanting me to quit.

We used to have such a great working dynamic and friendship, I just want things to be like that again. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I have wanted to a million times and if i didn't live with him then I would have done ages, I just really worried about bringing it up and it makes everything even worse, especially as i don't know how he feels and in true cancer form he is very difficult to read.

I'm just really scared of geting hurt again.

Hi, I'm new to the forum so it's lovely to meet you all.

OK...this is kinda a long story, so please bare with me.

I have been living with my Cancer house mate for about 1 1/2 years and we have always got on well. However in may this year we started getting on really well, hanging out a lot watching films together and we would laugh and talk all the time and basically it really felt like he was letting me into his world. He would even not go and meet his friends and so he could stay in with me.

Then on 29th of June he invited me out for his birthday, which I thought was odd cause we never really went out together....when I said yeah I'd go he look so happy that I had agreed to come. Anyway we had a fair few drinks and were very merry by the time we got home.

We were in the kitchen and I was telling him that his friend had tried to kiss me and we were laughing about it....then he hugged, which he doesn't do very often at all, then out of no where he tells me I smell nice and he kissed me, then we had this moment when stopped and looked at each other then we kissed again. He leads me over to the sofa were we continue kissing, then suddenly he stopped and said that it was a really bad idea and I agreed (we live together and it would be so complicated) and went to bed (on my own).

Well the next day we were both feeling a bit worse for wear and chilling on the sofa and I caught him looking at me, and I mean really starring. Since then it has kinda felt like he has been avoiding me particularly when he's drunk and it feels like he's being really distant with me, we can spend an hour in the same room and not say anything. However I have caught him looking at me a few times and he always looks either hurt or cross.

The worse part is I didn't realize how much I liked him until that kiss, but I have been so badly hurt in the past and I'm very shy about letting people know how I feel about them that I may have been acting a bit coldly towards him as well and because of the way he's been acting I have done everything I can to avoid showing him that I'm interested.

I do have the feeling that he's not always the one to make the first move....I was talking to a friend of his earlier this year and he was telling about seeing him talking to this girl and commented that he has never really seen him being that forward with a girl before.

So is he just shy? is he just not interested? Is he angry that I haven't mentioned it?

Any advice about how cancers guys work in situations like this would be great.

Thank you

PS I'm a Gemini