Hello I'm new here and WOW, it's reassuring to see I'm not the only one finding it difficult to work out Virgos.
I'm a Gemini 10th June 1984 and he's a Virgo 4th September 1982.
We have know it each other for nearly a year and I can safely say I have never met anyone who I connect with as deeply as I do with him. It's not just that we have everything thing in common (except Marmite, I hate it and he loves it) but we just seem to understand each other in a way I can't even find the words to describe.
It's almost like we are magnets we just can't seem to stay away from each other, it's just sparks fly on every level (physically, emotionally and spiritually) there is a massive energy between us that I have never experienced before. Basically every moment we spend together is sex without touching
The problem is he has a girlfriend, there relationship is not great and they argue most of the time. He has always said that he knows its not right but she has a hold over him and he can't get away.
Now they have split up a few times for a couple of weeks or so, and whenever this has happened we have ended up together. This has happened three times in total and the first two times I thought it was just drunken hook ups and everything was fine between us afterwards. Yes it hurt that he got back with her but I always saw it as his life, his choice.
However a month or so ago when they last split he made it clear to me that he want more from me than just friendship (to be honest it was clear he felt that for a lot longer) and we spent an amazing week together and then BAM he gets back with her again without even giving me an explanation.
I'm really confused about why he did this. I just have this gut feeling that he feels the same about me and I'm not a girl who kids herself when it comes to matters of the heart. We have both been trying really hard to keep distance between us, he must want to try and make that relationship work (even though it never has) and I'm trying to be respect of that and not get hurt any more.
But we are both struggling with the distance we both know things have to change but we are both struggling with it, the way are lives are intertwined makes it very difficult/impossible to have no contact.
I guess what I want to know is does he really feel anything for me or was I just an ego boost? It honestly feels like we are soul mates the connection is that deep and we have talked (not in length) about what happened and he said that he wished he had met me before he met his girlfriend. To be honest he is not very good at opening up about his feelings.
Are we ever going to get together?
Any advice would be much appreciated.