hey thanks for the reply, i havent checked this question in a couples weeks or so. i've moved on from this situation (one of the positives of being a gemini is being able to move on from situations pretty quickly) and realized this was more of a learning experience than anything. i'll never force love again, if its there i'll embrace it, if not then im not going to try to make something work that isnt meant to work. i did learn though that im attracted to cancer people and water signs in general and that i didnt realize that ive been attracting them my whole life. i love the water symbols, they calm my restless spirit. thanks a lot for the help and info.