Thank you so much! I really appreciate the perspective.
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RE: Leo and capricorn
Hi, everyone! I am a Sagittarius woman attracted to a Leo man, with his Mars=Gemini; Venus=Libra; Moon=Scorpio, Rising Sign=Scorpio. I have Mars=Capricorn, Venus=Aquarius; Moon=Gemini; Rising Sign=Cancer. DOB 12/7/65 (me) and 8/8/62 (him).
It has been a pretty interesting dance so far, very hot and cold and now lukewarm, at least on my part. I was head-over-heels for him a few weeks after we met five months ago, but we were both in transition so I was willing to let it slide for a little while and wait. My infatuation wore off after a while when he didn't contact me regularly and said he wasn't ready for a 'serious' relationship (which I had not actually asked for). Now, he still seems to want to pursue something, but I don't trust him emotionally as much as I did before. He talks a lot about enjoying the moment and not putting labels on our relationship (which I also did not ask for), but I have found, after some dating, that men say that as a code-word for no-strings-attached (NSA). FYI, this man and I are not intimate due to some other issues, which is a bit of a deal-breaker for me, but he acts very 'into me' regardless of the lack of consummation and has trouble keeping his hands off me after a few minutes together. Mixed signals.
Another thing that bothers me is that many people are intimidated by him - he can look like quite the bad boy. The funny thing is that I am way more wild than he is, but people think I am so innocent (my Cancer rising?). I like getting along with a large number of people, and people do respect him after they get to know him, but he doesn't really 'blend' the way I can. There are many good things about being with him, though, such as feeling protected even in the sketchiest situations. Also he does look somewhat like a rock star, so can be forgiven some eccentricity. He is a typical Leo in that he says he enjoys having parties at his place and lots of friendships when he is stable, so that sounds delightful later on.
Ultimately, there are many differences between me and this man, but we also share many deep values, enjoy our time together (goes fast!) and seem to make decisions well together. There is a lot going on in his life and also a lot in mine. Honestly, I've never been in a relationship that stretches me as much as this one - he is a really compelling person to me on many levels, but I certainly don't feel secure and in control of much, and I'm not used to that. There are other people that want to date me, but I can't get excited about anyone else until this relationship is resolved in some way.
I would love your perspectives on our compatibility and what issues we might face if I commit my heart to loving him for the long term.
RE: Wondering if this relationship will last.......
I am a Sag woman and I was married to an Aries man for more than 12 years. We had a GREAT time! However, it did end abruptly after three years of issues that he said were his, but definitely affected me over time. My husband was a great caretaker as well, handy for someone like me. Let me know if you have any specific questions.
On the speaking out - since you are already living together after a couple of months (hey, I can relate), you obviously have a strong bond. I think an Aries man would not take that step unless he already really cares for you, and I think he will be very loyal. Maybe he has a Scorpio placement (Mercury) which makes him tease a little too much, but just be honest and he will respond. He wants to know all about you right now and has plenty of attention to give, so now is a good time to be open about your feelings. As far as lasting, though, I mean, drive that car as far as you can but don't obsess if it ends someday.
My best advice would be to try and be clear about what life goals you have and MAKE SURE the Aries man shares a committment to reaching those specific goals. Otherwise, he will just say he is interested, and when the rubber hits the road, he will not really be there to help in a meaningful way. Luckily, it is my experience that much of life (home, kids, business) can be accomplished without a solid partner in those endeavors. Seriously, though, we had a very fun time for a very long time. Good luck!