Please excuse the long post..... I got involved with a cancerian man about 7 years ago. I left my husband for him as we were (it seemed) so in love. Never in my life had I felt so loved, he wrote me letters, texted me wonderfully romantic things and seemed too good to be true. We moved in together with my two children and it just went down hill. He was jealous of my children and teased them relentlessly, he had a child of his own who didn t live with him, so he wouldn t do anything with my children as he felt his child was missing out (even though his little boy had a really happy family and new step dad) and he was jealous of me speaking to my ex even though i left him to be with him. In a nut shell it didn t work out and after 3 miserable years he had an affair told me he loved this girl madly and they were planning a family! (it lasted a few months)
So I moved on,it took a while and after a few relationships I met another great guy, 7 years younger but a real charmer-but in a really innocent way,he thought the world of the kids, and eventually after dating a while he moved in with us (he previously lived at home). We had some lovely times, we used to laugh a lot together, text each other all the time, he went through a rough time as he lost his job and was out of work for about 5 months, which i supported him through, ilet himhave my car to use when he finally got a job and i thought things were good. Looking back I realise he used to go out a lot without me to cricket and football etc but i didn t mind that as he would always text me that he loved me and missed me.
Eventually he became distant, (he had debt and that was getting him down, he also used to say i did too much for him) and after a couple of weeks i confronted himand he said he wasn t happy and wasnt sure this was what he wanted, I asked him to leave then, as i explained it wasn t fair on the children and me for him to be here but not be sure. He sobbed and said he didn t want it to happen this way. I stayed very calm and sorted his things out for him to collect the next day. Various texts from him said he was so sorry, he would probably regret this, he needed to do things with his life etc etc. Since then (after he dropped my car off) he has only text me to say thankyou for the two wonderful years we shared and that he would always be grateful to me and love the children
I haven t contacted him at all after replying, that it was fine, probably all for the best and hoped he sorted himself out. I am gutted, my daughter especially is gutted, we never saw it coming,this was just under two weeks ago so it is very raw. I feel he has found someone else but am not sure as right up to the end he was telling me howmuch he loved me.???
Yes you guessed it he is a cancer. Im just staying quiet but i dont think he'll come back. I begged and pleaded even slept with the first man i mentioned and it got me absolutle nowhere, this time imkeepingmy dignity but im hurt beyond words.
Thank you for listening to me it helps to write this and reading everyones posts makes me feelless lonely.