starry10: hi im an aqua girl as well, although im the 18th feb, so almost a pisces. My male friend is also an aqua, he is the 14th. I dont show my feelings for fear of being rejected and abandoned. I was married to a capricorn, born on boxing day for many yrs ,ending it because of his drinking, 4yrs ago. Since then I have had various friendships with no sex or romance and alot of wishing, involving a divorsed pisces,and a gemini who became separated during our friendship. Both of these men I liked, especially the gemini which went on 2yrs. Both of them made me think they were interested but they never asked me to go for a drink ect. This might be due to the fact that I was frightened and kept blowing hot and cold to them, while wanting to have a relationship with them. I am unable to express my feelings for fear of rejection and eventually they gave up and in the case of the gemini found someone else recently.. With my aqua its got so confusing that recently he read something I said as being a rejection when it wasnt. So yesterday we sat and talked about the whole thing. I realized that, although I go out to talks and lectures and work with him and have know him longer then my others, i am not attracted to him. That he has a need for something more, that has led to him manipulating my codependency, in the fact that , although I knew I didnt want to say yes, I was ,because I didnt want to hurt him. He also rejected me on the only time I did saying I was withdrawing, when I was genuinly tired and wanted a night in. This led me to the conclusion, which was wrong, that I must like him and not be totally aware of it. Yesterdays cards on the table made me realize all this and that I dont want to satisfy his needs because I dont want him in that way. From this conclusion I think its best to discuss the reality of the situation including feelings and hopefully his, and not be held back by the fear of the concequences.This for me would remove any "that look ment he liked me" when it didnt at all. I wish more then anything I had told my gemini because he joined a dating agency and met a woman, who he says he has alot in common with and hasnt contacted me since even to wish me happy christmas. so there it goes. Next time hopefully I will tell them how I feel or ask them how they feel.
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just joining this debate on the gemini man. I have known a gemini as a friend for 2 Half yrs. He is married and in a unhappy( his words) 10yr marriage. I woudnt have a physical relationship because of this, as well as the fact that 3 half years ago left my 20yr marriage to an unpredictable capricorn. Both of our partners have drink problems. I was frightened of relationships at the time. I told him to sort his marriage out and be a father to his kids. Our kids are the same age they have met and get on well. Im an aquarius but im the 18th feb, so very close to pisces. Anyway in sept he separated from his wife. He came to see me i was excited but frightened. I told him to sort out what he really wants. He says he agrees he needs time. He writes and says hes sad and lonely and was thinking of getting a room in a shared house. He comes to see me again at work and tells me they were telling the children after christmas. I said are you thinking of testing it again over christmas. He says no , I said is there someone else, he says might be. Then he told me he had joined a dating agency and now has a relationship with someone on the physical level, living away , they get on well, but its early days. He phones me saying dont loose contact. He tells me the dating agency its fun. I was intrigued so I joined, as its free to look. We got matched to him, which I found interesting. On reading his profile I realized how much we had in common. But thats that. I emmailed him to tell him we had been matched, but I was going to cancel my membership. I txt him one evening 18th dec to ask him how he was and havent heard anything since. So much for keep in contact. Not sure whether to just leave it. I cant make him respond or think of me if hes not, so I have let it all go . I dont understand whether he ever realy wanted me or whether it was in my head anymore. I wish I had told him how I felt and why I wasnt going there. Instead i played im not interested really excetra. He is still married and that is still a fact though, perhaps thats it really. Would be gratefull for any comments.