LET ME PREFACE THIS POST BY SAYING THAT I AM A COMPLETE MENTAL MESS AND AS SUCH, THIS POST MAY BE VERY DISJOINTED IT'S CONTENT
And let me say: OMG! To date, this thread has 5704 posts, and I'm joining in to make it #5705.
I cannot believe the length of this thread, but then again, I've been doing some research online about Virgo men and there are LITERALLY, hundreds of thousands of posts floating out there; ranging from "VIRGO MEN ARE PSYCHO" to "I'D RATHER BE DATELESS THAN DATE A VIRGO MAN". I even found a thread where people so HATED ALL VIRGOS, they were advocating killing all of us and "ridding the world of an evil, diseased plague"...those were actual words posted on the net...SCARY.
Some of the posts are downright hilarious...others downright sad. I'm not sure what part of the spectrum my posts will land, but I'm going to put it out there anyway.
This will be a long post, and I hope that I will not bore some of you who will come here to read it.
Let me first say that I am a Virgo woman. I have Sun in Virgo, Moon in Gemini and Venus in Scorpio. I am your "typical" Virgo woman, meaning everything written about Virgo women applies to me, where I differ, are those Moon/Rising Sign Aspects.
After reading all of the threads about the Virgo Male, I can see myself in him with one regard and that is the fear of revealing my emotions. I can impenetrable. I can be harder to see into than a lump of coal. But make no mistake, I am very, very capable of feeling.
I have had three major relationships in life: a marriage (Cancer man), a live-in (Sag man), a FWB (Cappy man). All ended. I was the one who left and left without so much as a backwards glance. The Cancer and The Sag, both cheated on me and The Cappy turned into one of the most vile people I've ever met. So to say that ALL VIRGO men are cheaters is a generalization as my above example gives testament. My Cancer husband, not only cheated, but got his mistress pregnant. But Karma is indeed forthcoming, for when she gave birth, the baby was Totally African American, and not a biracial child; not to mention she wiped out his bank accounts and left him as broke as the ten commandments.
I have read here and on several other threads about the vindictive nature of a Virgo. Let me assure anyone else who comes here to read: THIS IS VERY TRUE. We can be very, very vindictive. And once we've set our minds to it, we will seek to destroy you. It is done with full knowledge, glee and a determination that would astound many.
I know that when I found out about my husband, I went on a mission to completely and utterly grind him into the ground. I succeeded too. But after a while, I realized that I was only hurting myself with all the negativity and vowed to never again fall into the "dark side" of my Virgoan nature. I'm quite sure that having Gemini & Scorpio featuring prominently in my natal chart made it all the more frightening.
I have grown much since that time, and since then, I only "use my power for good. NOT EVIL" lol
I would be what is known in astrological circles as the "evolved Virgo". This means that we are able to take/process feelings/emotions/thoughts, work them out and make quick decisions about what we want. The "un-evolved Virgo" is not capable of this and will therefore be very slow, unsure and flaky. This type of Virgo is/can be very detrimental to anyone who comes into contact with them. So as a Virgo, I'm here to say, if you run across one of these types, KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN AND BE READY TO RUN FOR THE HILLS.
Now, the real reason I'm here:
I have met what I believe to be an 'un-evolved Virgo Man. I met him online (funny how that's a recurring theme with most here and on other threads).
He is the most amazing man I have ever met. He makes me feel like the most wanted woman in the world and speaks to my heart. (Yea, we Virgos have hearts.) I want to spend ALL MY TIME with him. But alas....
So, how can I say in one paragraph that if you meet one of these creatures to RUN FOR THE HILLS, but yet, be "involved" with one? I don't know. The universe can do strange things to a person when one needs to learn a lesson. But I digress.
So, I meet this guy. I'm older/he's younger (again, a recurring theme) and for the past three weeks, we have had this intense connection, albeit online, but intense, nevertheless.
After four days of communication, he pronounces me "His" and that he is "Mine". We have had deep conversations about love, life, wants, needs, desires, children, family, religion...but SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT.
A lot of Virgos have a BS meter that would put polygraphs to shame and I will say, that my meter is being activated to no end.
He has told me what kind of job and where he works and that he is single with a son.
I have doubts about all of it. I tried to do a google search for him and have come up rather empty EXCEPT for a few pictures he sent. I found them on other sites. This being the digital age, people's photos can show up anywhere, so I will concede that what he says, "they stole my photos" could be true. But the BS meter tells me he's lying. And why would he not be on other sites? He's "single", right? He has the right to broaden his chances of finding someone.
He says he works on an oil rig, but I don't believe it.
As a matter of fact, everything about him is suspect. The site I met him on, another lady sends me an email telling me that he's a total liar..he doesn't live where he says he does, nor does he hold the job he says he does. When I confronted him about it, he says, "she's a scorned woman"...which could be true, and I've been one of those myself and know exactly what that can turn a woman into.
Yet, still, I think she's more truthful than he.
Over the past few weeks, we've exchanged over 300 emails and then a few days ago, he sends me an email saying that he had to go out of the country, the email/phone system is not good where he's at and the problem that took him there is much more complicated than he expected.
The few times he did call when he was "in country", he said he was using his boss' phone because he had no cell service on the rig, however, when I did reverse phone lookup, the calls were coming from a landline. I'm not a stupid woman. How can he be on a rig, but the boss' phone is coming from land? BS.
So, the day he "leaves" the country, no emails for three days. I'm going crazy and that little voice inside my head is telling me all sorts of things. I get panicky and anxiety filled and I fire off 7-10 emails. Still no response. This after 3wks of 50-60 emails a day.
On day two of his silence, I sent him an email telling him that I think EVERYTHING he says is crap:
1. You did leave me after you PROMISED that you would not.
2. You're married and I won't hear from you until after Mother's Day, cause you've got to put in your time with the wife.
3. I don't believe you're out of the country and you don't work on an oil rig.
(And let me say, MARRIED MEN are OFF LIMITS in my book. I was once married and had another woman come into my relationship. I know how this feels and as such, would never be part of such an emotional betrayal. Not saying that people who do have no morals, just saying I'm a firm believer of "do unto others." )
Finally, because I'm a Virgo and can leave at the drop of a hat, I send him an email saying "I'll give you the space to do what you and what you need to do." Then I send nothing for a couple of days. Out of the blue, I hear from him. He says "things are not good here, I will write when I have more time."
Was I happy to hear from him? Yes! Did I read that email with skepticism? You bet.
You see, if I remember correctly, on day 3 of meeting him, I gave him a list. We Virgos LOVE LISTS. And I listed all the things I wanted from a relationship. I listed all the things that would I not stand for in a relationship and I listed the things that would constitute a violation of my trust, along with the consequences for doing so.
He readily accepted them.
But yet, here I am, on a board for pertaining to the nature of those 'INVOLVED WITH A VIRGO MAN". I am waiting to hear from him again. I have been hovering around my laptop like a vulture and yes...when I hear from him, it will be as if pearls have fallen from the lips of God. lol
He has made me want him, desire him, need him, and must I say it? For a Virgo, this is truly an astounding feat, for we do NOT like dealing in emotions. It is scary, has the potential to wound deeply and severely, and is NOT LOGICAL!
However, since sending the "do what you need" email, I have found a sort of freedom because I do not think about him every second. I have gone back to my "routine" and it takes my mind off of him. I have been an emotional wreck since he "left"..ME...A VIRGO...AN EMOTIONAL WRECK????!!!! IMPOSSIBLE.
But to go back to what I was saying about the UNIVERSE and it's lessons, here's what I plan on doing:
The moment he "returns" to the country I will:
1. Tell him I know he's married.
2. Tell him that he is to KICK ROCKS and Not contact me ever again.
3. Wish him well.
4. Do as I said: Leave. TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY.
The thought of #4 is so scary...the potential of so much hurt and loss, that I cannot contemplate it. Yet, this is what I must do.
What I don't understand is how I could have fallen so quickly, deeply and totally for someone that I've not even met in person yet. He says we will meet when the time is right, but for whom..him? Me? Her? It? LOL
I can so totally see how difficult it is for any woman who has had the fortune/misfortune to meet a Virgo man. It can be exhilarating, deep, insightful, caring...I mean, My Virgo man was able to make me admit my BIGGEST FEAR...ABANDONMENT. I did it so easily and so quickly that it stunned me. Heck, I had never even admitted it to myself...always kept that tucked deep down inside me. But yet, he drew it out of me saying: "Nothing you could ever tell me would be taboo, or too crazy...NOTHING!!!!!!" He actually said that in an email. And I thought: "Wow. Someone who really wants to know what I think and feel." It was a total revelation to me. No one had ever done that before...given me space to open up and freely discuss what has been lying dormant so many years.
In conclusion, I will say this. If I can pin him down on the lies, I'm walking...and it will be permanent, total and with the precision of a surgeon. For if nothing else is true about Virgos, both male and female:
ONCE THE TRUST IS GONE. THERE IS NOTHING LEFT.
I ask that anyone who reads this, sends me positive energy to discover the truth. For the truth is all I desire.
Thanks for listening to my ramblings.