Posts made by bean0421

MoonTarot,

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate bluntness.

I have always had male friends in my life. Him and I became friends because at the time I needed a male buddy. I had cut out every male friend I had in my life. I didn't consciously seek out a new friendship with him. We work together. I personally don't think there is a problem having a male friend, even if they are married. But I do believe you are right, the universe has given me a blessing by taking him out of my life. But he was a blessing IN my life, when I needed one. He is a moon child and has a very nurturing soul. My self esteem was in the toilet. I just needed a reminder that I am human and am allowed to make mistakes in life. He helped me to see that. As a friend, I helped him in his battles too.

I know as human being none of us like to be forgotten, I think the thought that I have been forgotten so easily by a friend has hurt me. But, if we were friends that wouldn't happen. It is what it is. I needed help, he was there, and now I don't, and he isn't. Plain and simple.

Bean

Thank you for your input cat. But I am having a hard time letting go of the anger in me. He is going to have friends, and should have friends. I need to get rid of the anger in myself. I know my emotions are about me and I have to get to the bottom of why this situation is making me angry. I guess I'll do some meditating on this today.

Thank you again for your reply.

Bean

Hello all and happy weekend!!

I could really use some insite on a situation. Over the last year and a half I had developed a close friendship with a coworker. He was the first man I connected with after breaking up from a long term relationship. I had cut out every man I had in my life after the breakup, I had a hard time trusting. I think to me he was "safe" because he is a happily married man. The last thing I needed or wanted was a love relationship. I was getting my head screwed back on straight. he helped me realize it was ok to be myself. Then one day he cut me off, just stopped talking to me even avoided me. This hurt me and I had no idea what happened. I confronted him and he told me his wife had heard us talking on the phone (he was working at home one day) and she didn't like the way he was talking to me. He had said something to me that made her uncomfortable. So we decided that we could not be friends anymore. The last thing I wanted was to make anyone feel uncomfortable or uneasy or be the cause of another womans hurt. He had to do what he had to do. Yes, it hurt, he was a very good friend, but his marriage comes first, as it should. This is where I am having a hard time. we stopped casual conversation and we keep it about business. However, he has latched onto another woman at work. And is friends with her. Now, I know this is not my problem, it is his. This girl at work is someone he knows I don't particualry like very much. She just isn't a very nice person.

I am having a hard time letting this go. He can't in good concious be friends with me but can be good friends with her? I don't like the anger I am feeling with the situation but I can't seem to let it go.