MilliFeorie - I am learning from his site that we Cancers aren't as great as I once thought we are. We are very judgemental, manipulative and controlling, but for the RIGHT person we love with all our hearts... and no one could imagine the otherside. I was beginning to think I just wasn't REALLY a nice person... I think it's funny that people who really know me, know this, and it doesn't bother them. I think I'm going to ask them why. The people I'm the closest too are always virgo's. I can't imagine them doing anything to me that would make me treat them the way this girls Cancer man treats her. Except what I said bluntly... he has made up his mind.

I dont think Gemini's and Cancers are compatible. I keep reading on here that Cancers distance themselves a lot in relationships. I thought I posted abt this last nite, but apparently not to U. I am a Cancer and I do distance myself, but I usually break it off with the person first. I guess outside of dating relationships, I do that with family and close friends too. I think it's this uneasiness like "If I stay here where it's comfortable, what if I miss out on something better?" Then eventually I come to my senses and realize I would prefer the comfort zone, but then it could be too late. Trust me, I feel guilty when I can see the pain on someone's face who I am hurting, but sometimes choose to ignore it. U may really love this man, but I dont know how else to advise U, since I am as guilty as him.

HI I AM A CANCER WOMAN WHO HAS DATED A GEMINI MAN OFF AND ON FOR ABT 9 YRS. IN THAT 9 YRS WE HAVE MAINTAINED A FRIENDSHIP EVEN WHEN WE ARE WITH OTHER PPL. WHEN WE SAW EACH OTHER THE FIRST TIME, HE WAS AFFECTIONATE BUT WHEN WE WERE APART, HE WAS DEFINATELY DISTANT AND SOMETIMES COLD TOWARDS ME. I FELT LIKE I WAS ALWAYS CHASING HIM, TRYING TO TALK HIM INTO ADMITTING HIS LOVE FOR ME. HE REFUSED TO... AND HE HAD NO PROBLEM TELLING ME HE DIDNT LOVE ME. HOWEVER, WHEN HE HURT ME EMOTIONALLY, I WOULD QUIT CALLING HIM, HE WAS THE ONE WHO CAME BACK EVERY TIME. WE TRIED AGAIN A FEW YEARS LATER, EVERYTHING WENT GREAT FOR 3 WKS, THEN ONE WKND I COULDNT REACH HIM, WHEN I FINALLY REACHED HIM, I ASKED WHERE HE HAD BEEN AND HE SAID "THAT'S NONE OF UR BUSINESS." I TOLD HIM HE HAD HURT ME FOR THE LAST TIME AND I BROKE UP WITH HIM. HIS RESPONSE WAS HE WANTED TO MAKE IT WORK, BUT IF I DIDNT, OK. SO HERE WE ARE 4 YRS LATER, WE HAVE BEEN TALKING A LOT THE PAST 8 MOS, AS HE HAD MOVED TO A DIFFERENT STATE. HE MOVED BACK TO THE CITY I RESIDE IN. HE HAS BEEN CALLING ME, TEXTING ME A LOT, COMING TO SEE ME, AND WHEN HE SEES ME, HE CANT KEEP HIS HANDS OFF OF ME, OR HIS LIPS. HE IS THE ONE CHASING ME NOW, I FEEL LIKE THE BALL IS IN MY COURT. SO I THINK GEMINI'S CAN BE AFFECTIONATE WHEN THEY ARE READY TO, WHEN THEY HAVE MADE THEIR MIND UP ABOUT A PERSON. I'M NOT MAKING THIS EASY FOR HIM THO, HE IS GOING TO HAVE TO CHASE FOR A LONG TIME ATLEAST 3 MOS BEFORE I GIVE HIM THE SATISFACTION OF BEING IN A LTR WITH ME.

HI I DIDNT TAKE THE TIME TO READ EVERYONE ELSE'S REPLIES AS THERE APPEAR TO BE A LOT. I AM A CANCER FEMALE AND I CAN TELL U WHAT HIS ACTIONS WOULD MEAN TO ME IN THE SAME SITUATION. FIRST, FAMILY AND FRIENDS ARE EVERYTHING TO A CANCER. IF HE FEELS U HUMILIATED HIM IN FRONT OF THEM, AND THEY SAW THE SAME THING, HE CANT GET PAST THAT. ONCE A CANCER MAKES UP THEIR MIND ABOUT SOMEONE, THAT IS THAT. SO IF HE ISNT CALLING, U MIGHT AS WELL MOVE ON. I WAS IN A SIMILAR SITUATION. PERHAPS IF U CALLED SAID FAMILY MEMBERS AND APOLOGIZED FOR UR BEHAVIOR, AND THEY TOLD HIM THEY ACCEPTED UR APOLOGY, HE COULD SEE PAST UR MISTAKE. CANCERS LOVE VIRGO'S SO THERE MAYBE A CHANCE, BUT U DEFINATELY HAVE TO RIGHT UR WRONG.