Bless your mom for trying to help clean up that bp disaster, it affects us all eventually! I have 3 kids, youngest just graduated h.s. Her Dad and I split up after 22 years of marriage and all of them have had to adjust to a different kind of life and have done AWESOME, and I think you will too!!! Just being able to ask for help says ia all! You are not afraid to express yourself and reach out, that tells me you are a strong person! Hang in there young lady the answer will soon come!!

First and foremost is your boyfriend probabley has a bi-polar issue. I know that you are going through alot right now and don't know who or where to turn to. Turn to YOURSELF only then can we find the answers! Sometimes in life change is good for us and makes us stronger! Be yourself and go with the flow. Most of all believe that GOD has a master plan for you!!! Hang in there girl YOU WILL PERSEVERE!! By the way what is your sign?

I have written before and had some real eye awakening responses. quick synopsis, He is 66 and I am 46. We have been 'dating" for 7 months. went out of the country together and have an active sex* life. taurus (him) leo (me). he treats me well but is very secretive. I can't spend the night with him as he states his roomate (as his house is rented out) went through a bad relationship and dosn't want people over there. We are leaving again on monday for 12 days out of the country. He pays for it all but I still can't get over the fact that we can't be together at his temp. place. the only time we can be "together" is at a swingers club or out of the country and I NEVER have been out with him at night, only during the day! (ps.. We never share when we go to a swingers club) I know he truely likes me but I can't get over the fact that we can't spend the night together. He always has an excuse to all my questions and is supposedly divorced. Sounds like i am being played for or he is for real?

Hi everyone. I was just reading the last post and at my age (46) and have already experienced the supposed "happily ever after senario", and am now single again and confused, I think we all begin to wonder is there really that certain someone out there that is truly meant for us? I truely believe the answer to all our questions lies within. If we have doughts deep inside then we need to heed them as we are our own BEST FRIEND!!

god this really sucks though! I thought I found a good one this time.I guess there all gone. Darn I am about to give up for good on all MEN!

No I didn't have a problem with the "club" as he has never shared himself or me with anyone. But that is the only plce I can be with him outside of going on that trip. Although he did admit today that he took another girl there before me approx. 4 times but said he played with other people not her! Yeah right, I might be a blonde but that was years ago. He is slowly hanging himself!

Hi you all and thankyou for the insights. pinkadmint you are so right, at first everything was roses and now I bite my tongue and don't question his words, yet I want the answers to my questions! So I grew balls today and asked him some questions and overheard some comments to his cousin I wasn't suppose to hear, but dang he is so smooth and quick with the reasoning behind the questions! Once again I fell for it! How can I really be sure he is not full of shit or really sincere?

ok talk to you manana, ok?

by the way the man I take care of and truly thinks he is in love with me is 74. He is also an alcoholic and ruined my life when I fell in love with a 47 yo man in wisconsin and drove 1700 miles to get out of this and be with him. So now here I sit in my side of the condo and want a dirrerent life I thought my taurus(Bob) was the answer. Guess not huh?

you are right again , I am a mess right now. THANKYOU FOR YOUR INSIGHT. Like I said before you are a very gifted and intelligent person. I am just stupid when it comes to relationships( I was a nurse and x-ray tech for many years, so not book stupid) I am so confused right now. I also live with a man that I have taken care of for the past 4 years and have it made,now he was diagnosed with liver cancer last week. Feel like my world is crumbling around me and can't see wich way to turn!!