ElizaAnn, positive thinking is not just for one day, it is a process you will need to incorporate into your every thought and action. That is not to say that nothing bad will ever happen to you if you do adopt this philosophy & lifestyle. Yin & Yang, good & bad, pair together in all things... you can do lots of research into that or read many great books about the subject (which may help you greatly on your new path). Sometimes things happen which seem bad, like losing your job or housing situation - but time will show you that this thing had to happen so that you would get a better job, find a better place or meet someone who will change your life. Do not be overwhelmed by this process, but choose a reachable step to begin: every morning look in the mirror and say a positive statement about yourself, out loud yes, I'm serious about that). Choose to thank someone each day for their good action or attitude. These two small activities will soon become very natural, and you will begin to see more good things coming your way. Good Luck.

Joy, I understand that you are in pain because of this situation, but you need to step back a bit. Karma will definitely have the last word... not only for your ex, but also for you so be very careful. Harboring resentment and keeping that pain close to you will only bring you more - and raising your children with that pain and resentment will attract that destructive Karma to them also. It is not easy, but you must concentrate on your future and block the past from your consciousness. Raise your children with love and forgiveness and work towards a shining future. Allow the healing to begin and nurture emotional growth - then and only then will you find your true happiness. Good Luck.

Has he been in contact with anyone else? I don't want to stir you up, but you might check to see if anyone has actually talked with him or seen him. If he has been seen, he may have another "life" going on with different people and there is more to his deception than just not being around for you even though he declares his "love".

You don't mention your ages, so I'm going on some assumptions.

It might help you if you could get her whole chart by finding out what time she was born & where, because there is something else pulling her (if it isn't just youth or indecision). I do think you need to move on. She shows signs of not knowing (or not wanting to know) what she really wants or needs, but she wants to keep a connection with you because of your love for her - and she loves that, not necessarily you. I'm not saying this to be cruel because if she really did love you as she says, she would make more of an effort to keep you closer.

Find some other friends to spend your birthday weekend with, or go someplace where you might meet other people with your interests. Try your best to forget she exists for the next week - if she contacts you, you can spend some time discussing your future. If she doesn't contact you, get the rest of your stuff from her and say goodbye, because although she might not mean to (I am giving her the benefit of the doubt), she is using your affection.

Have a wonderful birthday - spend time on yourself & what makes you happy.

Good Luck!