I am a cancer married to a Virgo who was married when I met him, said the marriage was over which it turned out it was not on paper for another four years. Then after five years found out there was a five year old I never knew about.
As all of us Cancer's are I am very up front and furious that he put me in that postion since foolishly I believed him. This was mind torture for me to be sure. I have developed over the years a mechanism to shut out those that cause me pain, and frustration, another cancer trait, God bless those shells and claws. When you get us angry don't even try to talk to us until we are ready. We have learned to depend on no one, if we love you we will do anything for you, if you hurt us better get your winter coat out.
I threw him out of my house, changed the locks turned of the answering machine and the ringer, even had a restraing order out once. Finally many years of back and forth me fighting with myself as to why I did not walk away and stay away - it was his presestant pursuit and romatic that kept pulling me back - we are suckers for that. Now we are happily married after years of me telling him no way in hell would I marry him. We have been together over 13 years now with a nice comfortable family home as all cancers and are best friends.
With all this stuff going on not to mention the step children and etnicity issues I have neglected my friends and most don't understand. I feel guility and sad but I just could not deal with setting plans with friends when things where so crazy at home. Things have finally settled since our marriage and having kids living in and out of the house so I will humbly get in contact with friends again.
It is very hard emotionally for Cancer's, I feel like I took on a crash course on life this time around, been though it all but all of it not as bad as it could have been. An example, my Brother was murdered, we don't know who (we have our suspisions which have been confirmed by Allison DuBoise) but at least we know where he is. I was totally out of commision for two months after this, could not even work, wanted the world to stop. That is our burden, emotional sensetivity on hyper mode.
I have walked away from jobs where people are back stappers, yelling and just plan miserable never to return. If you can't even speak civally to one another why would anyone want to be in this environment. I can always go to the temp agency and get in somewhere. I work hard, happily doing more than my share and helping others but if you start taking advantage things can change in a nano second. I have to work in a colligale atmosphere and be a contributer in order to feel good about my job.
I wish all of you cancerians strengeth to deal with our sensativities and the loved ones to honor and appreicate what that brings to the table.