Emeraldfields: "Autumn Spirit, as for water signs being superior in psychic ability to all others of the Zodiac, that I personally know to be otherwise, as I have known generations of pyschics and intuitives who have proven otherwise, and do not agree with, just as your mind is set to the contrary"

AutumnSpirit: Well I suppose you may want to go back and read the context of the word "psychic" and the sentence it was used in because the words you use in the above quoted paragraph are solely your words, not mine. In fact if you do go back and re-read you will see how specific I was in the reference. You may see you misunderstood. You may also see

my disclaimer regarding my expertise regarding all Cancers.

Regarding the three water signs specifically Cancer I also stand by my experiences and knowledge and much research in that Cancers are best matched with the other two water signs as well as the two earth signs pointed out <--especially if these two earth signs have planets in their charts of the water element. However, if there is a water sunsign with many air/fire in their charts the compatibility lessens with the water sun sign. When the water signs are matched well, the PYSCHIC CONNECTION as well as understanding between them are far greater. I hope I was able to clarify. Peace to you and Happy New Year Everyone!

"They seem to find romantic and sexual relationships often."

Hey Sandran712...^^^That was a quote from Emeraldfield's writing. I'm with you and disagree with that statement. I also agree NOT ALL Cancers have the negative traits pointed out here as well as in other threads.

"They crave attention and find ways to get it, wherever, whatever...both male and female Cancers seem to be very flirtatious and there seems to be a propensity to "test other waters"...even if they cheat, they tend to want to come/go back to their original partner or engage the attentions of multiple admirers at once. If they are cheated on, it hurts them but seem more likely to hold grudges toward rivals in areas of career or in other social arenas. They seem to find romantic and sexual relationships often."

If they aren't getting the attention by their significant other they will seek it elsewhere hands down (regardless of sign). Cancer perhaps more so, because they NEED that emotional connection that some are not capable of giving or simply do not sense the Cancer's needs and wants. Cancer unfortunately doesn't communicate this directly because they feel it should come naturally without being told. The personality traits are very similar to that of Scorpio and Pisces, hence why (if again other planets are within the water elements) these two signs are an ideal match, and an unspoken communication/comfort level exists that is so often spoken about by both astrologers and Cancer/Scorp, Cancer Pisces successful lifetime experiences.

Absolutely, I agree, anyone can have psychic abilities, but without the emotion or passion close to or equal to the Cancer, it takes a bit more work and understanding on the other person's part. Cancer senses true love given to him or her which in their minds should be equal if not more and when that isn't received (in the Cancer's mind), the negative qualities of the Cancer will come out more so and yes, unfortunately includes cheating. Again, this does not exclude other signs from the same behavior.

Well this topic "All Things Cancer Men" is probably the best, where instead of complaining (well, there's some light complaining but bearable) there's some factual information here. I'm a Scorp, pisces moon & rising, and have a Cancer gentleman slow but sure persisting me. I think of him, and he contacts within seconds...each and every time. <--very strange. For now it's more text/some phone, but it's at a pace I am comfortable with as well as he. I just KNOW this man is going to be a part of my remaining life. I do not know how I KNOW...I just do.

What I'd like to comment about is no matter where you go and do your research on the internet, I have found time after time, Cancer males (unless they have a lot of fire or air in their charts) are hands down best suited with, in tune with, other females of water. (again unless the females have a lot of air/fire in their charts) There is an undeniable comfort level and understanding of one another where no question has to be asked, it's already known/sensed. I believe Taurus and Virgo are second runners up but still lack the intense emotions water signs feel. Taurus is packed with PASSION, but still do not hold the unspoken do I dare say psychic connection as the female water signs. It's something the other elements (fire, earth & air) don't understand or underestimate. It has been my experience with cancer friends that they tend to test these other elements more so than the water signs. Sure, there might be an initial test to the water signs by a cancer, pisces or scorpio, but that's usually all it takes. They sense so much more quickly where that water sign is at...usually at the same level of understanding. Supposedly (and without reading any info. on Cancers I sensed) between my scorp sun, pisces moon & rising, this guy is my perfect match with his moon in cancer and rising scorp. Yet I've met other cancer males with fire in their charts or worse air, there's a clear difference. Even still there's that unspoken communication...we simply GET EACH OTHER. So when I see female air/fire signs knocking these cancers down, I can understand why they do. I also see their frustrations as to why the Cancer male is constantly testing the crap out of them. He is missing that understanding, doesn't feel the deep down emotional vibe so he MUST test, and test to see if he can one day completely relax, be himself and love unconditionally, lovingly with the passion that's hidden deep within himself.

Now, I don't claim to be an expert on Cancers, but it's what I feel and sense in these wonderful crustaceans! This man I speak of in my situation, I just know we both have had our walls up our entire lives, and it's just ready to explode. Now, that can be a good thing, or it can be somewhat negative, but I'm telling you, I have so much in my heart and soul that's been guarded because of my high sensing level and smart enough not to give it to the wrong person that it's bubbling over just waiting for this Cancer to meet me half way. Anyway, this is just a personal observation and I wonder if other Cancers here agree in that respect. Yes...I got burned by a Pisces male......who had air in his chart a very long time ago...very deceitful. But I learned to hone in and sense this deceit and damn if I wasn't correct in others who tried to pursue me who I've turned down and later learned......they were snakes! Good for me! Anyway, your thoughts on this would be appreciative. Everyone have a very safe holiday! Happy New Year!

"Now what I guess I want to know is... is the possible??? Or is it just imagination or wishful thinking??? "

Oh man...and you haven't met him in person yet? whew...Now I don't feel so crazy....and NO! I don't think you are crazy, but imagine this:

Didn't meet him online, he's actually someone I've known only as an aquaintance and haven't seen for many years. Spent one evening chatting at an occasion we were both invited to. That conversation lasted about 2 hours, it ended with a hug. A hug that I will never in this life forget..ever. I FELT something very intense. 3 months went by, saw him again at another low-key occasion, spoke briefly, small hug......intense. 5 months goes by, I get a call from him, lasts 4.5 hours...I believe we poured our insides out and blew each other's minds. Mind you, he knows I'm interested, I know he is. Some texting ONE DAY in September, 2 hours of texting in October. It's been a month on average between the two, so I'm going to assume another contact will be made, he's due. I've texted some pics of things to him (not of me...nature) with no words in between. All the while, I am CERTAIN 99.9% this man is THE ONE. I feel it, I feel him (we live 5 mins. away from each other never been inside each other's home), and it is the oddest thing I have ever experienced. Maybe that Scorp/Cancer thing..not to mention he's a triple Cancer, me...Scorp sun, pisces moon & ascendent, so there's a connection in that area for sure. Again, do I think you are crazy!.........NO!.........I believe in this stuff. In the mean time semi blue, we can both try and be entertained with our imaginations & wishful thinking. I truly feel I can sit and meditate and make him feel me. Now how damn crazy is that! LOL

I'm sorry, I confused you with someone else in these forums who have had two dates...HOWEVER...Ploik you have to remember, you are crossing over from a 30 year friendship to the other side of the unknown territory with this man. You have to know he is

analyzing this step over to that side with a fine tooth comb. Let him do that. If your heart is

in that step over, he will know it and if he feels the same he will proceed. Patience...One thing

about Virgos too (especially if friends first), is they will be completely honest with you in their

thoughts about it.

Send him a joke back. It was a Virgo test to see if you are upset with him. He is truly analyzing everything, if he wanted nothing to do with you he would not have sent anything. You have to trust me on this! Do not knock him, you've had two dates, when it gets to a serious relationship, then if things get negative you should express how that makes you feel. In the mean time, I'm telling you, he's feeling things out! Keep us updated!

Hi Ploik...ah those virgo men...slow, deliberate, analystic, and so sweet. LOL...You the Aries want answers YESTERDAY. That's not going to happen. You must be blessed with a great deal of patience, and let him take the lead ALWAYS in the beginning, until he is sure of a relationship with you. You didn't "scare him off" - you've brought about what Virgos (like Cancer & Scorpio) do best. The little tests. Do NOT reach out any more, let him analyze his feelings. You did not sleep with him, that's good! Let him be the one to reach out to you next, be calm, listen to what he has to say and just naturally be yourself. Do not push for answers, they will come. If you do this, and the communication goes back to the way it was, just follow it. (That's hard for Aries because they are natural leaders) It's a small sacrifice to be patient, but if he does in fact decide he wants a relationship with you, no words will be spoken - it's his ACTIONS that will SHOW you. These guys are a great catch. They are stable, steady and reliable when they settle into a relationship. You will notice the little things he does in the beginning stages when he declares a relationship, that are usually so thoughtful and sweet. I'm sorry to say that if you do not have the patience, you should move on, because these guys do take their sweet time just as the Cancer guys do, but so well worth the wait. Good luck!

Well best wishes to you. As the heartbreak lessens, and the more you put it behind you, the easier things will get for you. You need to do whatever you can to push past this. Time heals all wounds.

Hmm, through experience, I completely disagree with this "practical" view. Practical is equivalent to "settling" in my opinion. I settled because of my biological time clock and the heart felt desire to have children. He was a good husband, good father and after 16 years of marriage & a peaceful parting we are still very good friends. We both still felt empty inside. We loved and love each other, but are not "in love". Sex & lust has nothing to do with it either. Our sex life was very healthy, just empty. Yes, it works, we could still be married and move along as robots, but both chose not to. I guess it's to each their own in making this life long decision.

Regarding the Cancer and when they decide to get married, usually depends on the maturity when they do decide. The younger Cancers tend to choose the wrong mate & marry (not all), the older, more experienced are well honed in on their desire and have learned what works for them in a relationship & while dating probably test alittle more than they should. Any of the water signs at an older age realize emotion/feelings must be reciprocated as well as a need to be understood. More so with Cancer. In any case, any sign we want the whole package, we dream about it, fantasize about it and if we are realistic enough and patient enough, we may all be blessed with all that we desire to complete us, and the partnership. If it's practical and makes us happy, then that's great. The key here is happiness within.