I appreciate your reply, you are so on top of things.. I guess I better think more positive if things are manifested to be by my thoughts and attitudes, positive or negative. Things are so negative right now. #1 goal is to resolve certain situations in the marraige, but the other persons lack of communicating honestly makes it hard. This is so true, The greatest challenge is to get along on a daily basis. Do to the previous problem this needs work.!!
Irritation and dissatisfaction does often surface and, as you stated quote: (if this develops into a power struggle, you will tear each other apart). Its not so much about a power struggle, its about honesty, trust, loyalty, commitment, love, understanding and being able to communicate the good and the bad I guess self worth. The truth will set us free to be apart or work on being faithfully together. Each of you think you know best so arguments are inevitable. I think this is not about who knows best, its about being real with self and standing up to it. I have seen some alienations do to the situation. But real friends will stay and be there for you as well as family. I do notice some family members seem to be taken a certain side. I'm the one who seems to be taking the blame but he's the guilty person. Go figure. We do need moderation. If this is it passionate reconciliations are about the best you can expect then I guess I have my answer. We can be, good supportive friends. Our children are grown. Trying to turn arguments into conversatons hell trying to conversate.. If you work together, you can accomplish whatever you want. This is the plan., Thanks for your insite.