Number 1 thing to remember about Aquarians... we're all about FREEDOM! Freedom to laugh, freedom to love, freedom to think, freedom to act, and freedom to simply be who we were born to be.
In addition, we allow and respect that same freedom and unique individality of every person. That's what we find so fascinating and beautiful with people and why we can be friendly with all walks of life. There is never judgment, only acceptance. Sometimes, playfulness, friendliness and showing interest in someone can be interpreted as more than was intended.
When we find the other person has misunderstood our intent and begins coming on in a fashion that we are not ready for, we immediately distance ourselves enough to keep the person from getting too close (which may be interpreted as playing games) but we may truly adore the person and want to keep them as friends or even a possible relationship later on when we can feel them out a bit better.
If they feel rejected by OUR giant step backwards and they become distant, we will try to keep the contact going to some extent because there really is something we like about that person and we do not want them to completely back out of it.
We want to keep it light and fun...nothing heavy until we're ready for heavy. Any attempts to stifle and suffocate an Aquarian from the freedom that is second nature to their BEING, will only result in disaster.
Please do not confuse 'freedom' with an inability to commit because that is FAR from the truth. It is for the sheer fact that we are 100% committment oriented that we steer away from it until we are good and ready. BECAUSE... when we give our word about something or choose to commit to someone, it is completely unbreakable. We are loyal through and through. We value high ideals and we settle for nothing less, especially from ourselves.
Our fear of someone getting too close to us when we are not ready is more a fear of our own ability to commit when we are not ready to. Then we feel 'stuck' instead of committed and there goes our beloved freedom. Choosing committment is freedom, finding ourselves 'stuck' is prison. I hope that makes some sense.
So.... it may seem that Aqua's play games but in reality our nature is often misunderstood. Games are way too heavy for Aqua's who are simply in play mode.
There are two kinds of guys we adore... The strong, confident, HE MAN that usually ends up being bad news in the long run for us (I'm speaking for myself) and/or the guy who has been our friend, who allowed us to be ourselves, laughed at our qwerks; the guy who was there for us when we needed a shoulder to cry on or the dependable guy we knew we could count on when we had a flat tire....suddenly we see them in a different light and we fall in love.
Gemi13... I see your Aqua girl as wanting to keep you around but she is playing the 'distance' card. I believe your window of being the HE MAN has closed (which is fine because you have to be your true self to be happy, anyway) but she is not ready to close the door completely. She is still feeling you out. There is something she really likes about you but she has to analyze you a bit more.
DO NOT take this as rejection by any means. If she were rejecting you, she would flip you off like a light switch and you'd never hear from her again. HOWEVER... since you are still being analyzed, you need to play it 'kewl.'
Any emotional outburst will end it for you...guaranteed! Stop the game playing because that may be what has caused her to step back. Aqua's do not like game playing and she will never call you out on it, but she will be turned off immediately by it. It's not too hard to figure out.
You need to be yourself, DO NOT initiate any texts or communications but respond back to hers in a fun, light manner. I suggest going out with her and her friends, be yourself, laugh, have fun, talk to other girls. DO NOT try to 'hit' on her (figure of speech). When she feels that you are no longer coming on to her, she will relax and you both will be able to get to know each other better....then you will have a much better chance at getting close to her.
She may still be seeing her old boyfriend, and maybe other guys for all you know. You are not in a relationship with her and bringing it up would not be wise. She most definitely is not committed to him and I'm sure he is slowly going the wayside. She has the right to do what she wants... you guys are still in talking mode so making a comment about it would only make you look like the crazy one.
She is open to finding someone to connect with.... take that information and run with it. BUT, just remember to be the fun, lighthearted guy that is likeable and step away from her comfort zone until she invites you back in. She will make it perfectly clear when that time comes.
Apologies if I'm too straight forward but I'm on your side, Gemi13. I can see that there is something about you she really likes and I want to help you connect in the best way possible.
Hang in there : D