Another thing, if I'm into you it will be obvious because I will make time for you, talk & share things with you etc. If i'm not interested you will know because I will be nowhere to be seen, I will be gone. I can't act like I like you or just be nice cause I don't want to hurt your feelings, I just don't have time for those games. So basically it's easy to know where you stand. Also I will probably rarely say how I feel about you but I will constantly show you by my actions. I'm a busy girl & there is a point to everything just pay attention and you will see my feelings.

Hey, I am a typical Gemini girl, but saying that, I have a lot of Cancer in my chart so yea that makes me even more confusing.

I can tell you one thing that you did wrong, something that drives me nuts. You had drama in your relationship, she vented about your facebook pics, you discussed it and then things went back to normal. Thats exactly what probably happened for her, well at least me. If somethings on my mind I will say it, I will vent and then I will be done and things will continue as normal. I dont really want to go back over it and get all emotional and discuss it, if I say it's cool then its cool. Throughout all my relationships I have been told that I'm not open or emotional enough, well at least to the degree of which a male might expect a female to be. Beleive me, if i'm pissed off about something you will know about it.

The second thing that stood out to me here is you chased her, you made it really complicated and somewhat easy for her. All that drama would be a major turn off to me unless I was pushing the issue or fact. I am attracted to men who remain a little elusive, interesting, guys who make me think and work at things, I hate things to be easy and just handed to me. So I would say, dont be so accomodating to her, dont be so needy and just get on with life and enjoy yourself but stil keep in contact. I cant help it but I flutter from one interesting thing to another, I love to get my thoughts into things. Make her want to come to you and spend time with you, but dont drown her with complicated relationship details, she will become overwhelmed and run away fast to something more fun loving. If there is an issue you will know about it! She has children so I guess her life is more complicated than mine but maybe organise something fun & exciting you lot can do together. Organise to pick them/her up and take then for a surprise outing and move forward with your relationship and forget the complications as they are not that big a deal. I get down when things are boring & regular and start looking for the next exciting thing to keep me amused. From late twenties female (June 12th)

Hey Sexygem, firstly thank you so much for your words they mean so much to me and its great to know there is someone out there similar.

We have known one another four about 10 months, we are not dating, just friendly friends. Until just recently I never really knew about his fetishs. He knows I like him and we have gone through this cycle of him being around and interested and then hes gone for weeks or months. Anyway he has come round again in the last month or so. He has told me what he wants to be dressed in and what he wants done to him (b&d wise). At first I was a bit taken back but went along with it. I have thought about it lots and done lots of research and reading and found that it's actually quite normal. Also that is actually lots of fun for both partners. I have always had very dominant partners so I'm actually getting really excited about playing the dominant one for a change. I am totally open to his desires and would love to explore them with him. I'm just not really sure how to move forward with him on this though. I want to know more but I dont want to make him sit down and explain cause that might make him feel weird.

It explains the first time we were together, he wanted to use certain things (ie a hood) and wanted to play the submissive. At the time I didnt really get him and expected him to play the dominant and said 'lets not use the hood'. It turned him off and I took it the wrong way that he was not into me. Now I know that I was in the wrong and expected him to do something that he was not at all comfortable with.

It's nice that you saw the fact he shared these things with me as a way of saying hes interested in me. I have no real idea if he likes me however I think it would be a big deal for a guy to come out and share with a girl. Therefore I assume he has some interest in me at least on some level to share such personal info with me. I also feel like he has been testing me and feeling me out for a very long time. I just want to know how long it will take for him to decide. I think he is slowly trusting me but oh so slowly.

Thanks again x

So we can push Cancers in the emotional realm. So how do you move forward. Do you just support them, let them know your there and go with what they suggest and decide to share with us. Just get on with our lives, be there and show the Cancer that your there for them and let them decide on how much they want?

Update.....

I have got to know my Cancer guy even more. He has dropped hints about his sexuality and the stuff that hes into over the last 9 months. However, it is only in the last few weeks that I have really 'got him' and understood him. I know it's not everyones taste so please dont judge whether you think his tastes are right or wrong. If it's not your thing thats ok, just dont disrespect us for me sharing this. He is a typical cancer man, very sensitive, emotional, intelligent and masculine. However, he is into what I would call kinky sex. He likes to take the submissive role, wear femine attire etc, with a bit of B & D. I have done a lot of research into these things and they are actually very common with men. However most men will go their wholes lives and not share these fetishs with anyone not even their wifes after 20 years of marrige. Being into these things is not something that you decide to be into or not, its just how you are wired. It's not socially acceptable therefore men like him struggle to be truely honest with themselves.

So I feel quite special that he dicided to share these things with me, not knowing how I would react is quite a brave thing. Knowing this helps me understand him so much more. He is a very sweet, emotional, successful, masculine man. Because of this he is very intouch with his femine side as I would expect most Cancer men are. Therefore he has many female friends because he understands them and has a connection. Men with this sexual orientation are also very intouch with their femine side that taking on the submissive (femine) role is much more natural to their nature than the dominant (masculine) role. I am very open minded and just because something is not mainstream it does not mean that it is normal or natural to some.

Therefore, this is why I think he has many female friends but no partner. He has not found that person that he can completely open up with, someone who accepts him as the person he is. I guess it's true that the Cancer man is looking for someone who 'gets him'.

Thanks for not judging on his interests, I just wanted to share another dynamic to what may be going on with some men.

Thanks for your comments. From the things we have done and the things he has shared I do know that we are more that just friends. This is definately not the type of relationship I have with other male friends. The first time we did anything he said it was 6 months since the last time (I was amazed) and that it had been a very long time since he had had a steady partner. What I am confused about is that he is attractive, intelligent, fun and sweet so I would definately expect him to be attached as was amazed to learn that he wasnt and that he had had so few woman (in a romantic way).

He is a very sensitive guy and I have said and done the wrong thing a couple of times now. I give him space, get on with my really busy life and leave him be. But he always seems to come back to me. I dont have any high expectations of anything and am not at all intimidated by the other women. I myself am also attractive, intelligent and fun also and if he wants me thats great, if he doest then thats also fine.

I just dont get how such a attractive, intelligent, fun guy has so many female friends but is not attached to any of them and that its be so long since he had anyone. I am a little taken by his interest in me when there are so many other female friends around him as you would expect him to be taken. And yes I do know he could have many woman on the go at once but why would he start telling me how long it was since his last time. All a little confusing to me.

There is this Cancerian man that I am interested in. He has lots of female friends but is single and has been single for quite a while from what I understand.

I want to know whether this is a problem or issue that Cancer men have. I am a little curious as to why he is interested in me when he has so many female friends who he could be in relationships with.

Thanks for your feedback

Hey, I have Gemini and Cancer in my chart. What does this combination mean? Is that a good thing or not? I am interested in a typical cancer man, does this make us a good match.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Gemini Female

Sun Gemini

Moon Libra

Mercury Cancer

Venus Cancer

Mars Gemini

Jupiter Libra

Saturn Libra

Uranus Scorpio

Neptune Sagittarius

Pluto Libra

Lilith Scorpio

Asc node Leo

Ascendant Taurus

II Gemini

III Cancer

IV Leo

V Virgo

VI Libra

VII Scorpio

VIII Sagittarius

IX Capricorn

Midheaven Aquarius

XI Pisces

BTW I'm a typical Gemini so even though I am finding him very confusing, I am loving trying to figure him out and learning more about him, it's all interesting and fun. I don't think I would ever get bored with him because there is always something new to discover and learn about him, it just takes effort and time to discover it or wait for him to chose to share it.

This is really interesting. To take this a step further, Can staring into your eyes become too intense for a cancer man? From this discussion I have learned that the cancer is staring into your soul. Can what they see become too intense for them? Not sure if this makes sense, however.

There is this cancer guy i like. I was in a bar with friends one day and he came to the bar to meet me. We were chatting quite close and it felt like we were the only ones in the room. Anyway soon the conversation stopped and we just stood there gazing into one anothers eyes smiling. It was wonderful, I felt this deep connection with him, I really saw how gorgeous he was in that special moment. That lasted about a minute then the said he had to go to the bathroom, so I said cool, see you soon and continued talking to my friends. He was taking ages so I text him to see what was up. He text back saying that he was not feeling well so he went home. I was not very happy at all, I was left confused and felt lied to. Why could he not have told me that he was going? Was that moment too intense for him that he didnt know how to process it or did he just not feel the same? He could of just said ' I'm not feeling you so I'm going home'. I am still confused about it to this day.

Cancer guys - Any input into why he did this?