Hi Aries, first off when i read this "POW" it hit home...secondly I was going to say let them go..But now a child is involved here and thats a big one...

Is he a good dad? I ask this because no matter what its your child that will feel the stress of you...and everything you carry. I can feel the pain and hurt that you write, "it jumps right out at me.."

As far as the woman, let her out of your mind.Trust me I know how hard that can be..You need to find some kind of peace, forgiveness etc..so this doesn't eat away at you...

My X oh my G...I had never felt hate before like that for another, a word that I wouldn't even let my kids use...But when I heard his voice or his name.Something inside of me would SNAP, I mean SNAP...I had to speak with him because of our sons together...I blamed him for everything that was wrong in my life...Even if I had a falling out with someone, somehow I would find away to pick him apart..

Yes, he almost drove me to a nervouse breakdown more than once, he tortured me mentally and spiritually..

But to make a long story short, (sorry I will write forever some times...)

Someone said PRAY for him For 30 days, I said what the **&^%$#$%^&&(()(&^%$#@##$&&%%$$%%$%^%$%%%$^&()^%$$%^.

I think maybe your thinking ,what i was saying...

So after 2 weeks more of him continuing to be taking up space in my head, I said his name in my prayers...I forgive you? I forgive you? Now I'm not religious in the sense of the Bible..But I do beleive that someone out there is a force so beautiful, that words can't describe..

After the 1rst week "I forgive you?" didn't come out yelling, my voice was softer..

Yep, you guessed it, I can talk, to him and say his name now and feel nothing...no more hatred..Now I'm not saying that hes my best friend, but now i care what happends to him..

I hope and pray that you can find some peace..Now when I get that twinge sometimes even with family members, i hear my words and it doesn't take the 30 days anymore..

Hugs

Sheila

Peace,light,love

I have a situation, first my ex being a liar about pretty much everything, second, his gf being a liar about pretty much everything. Even herself for that matter, everything I've heard from her my ex says the opposite (though he did go along with it for a while)

How do you go about dealing with this?

There are many things in which I've heard, all things contradicting each other I was told they were getting married so I congratulated them both, then my ex says all of it was a lie and he does not plan on getting married to anyone anytime soon. Then his gf, who has made my life a living heck, she lied about a crap load of things too. Apparently just to mess with me (wicked people - no exaggeration here) then my ex turns around and we have a conversation about "us" and that through everything we actually do love each other very much. Just no more romantic feelings there.

Then, my ex comes over and starts being friendly (which he has not done in a very long time, came and chatted with me and my family like we were still a couple, then.. he turns around and asks me for a favor but since I don't believe a word he says anymore I declined the favor.

How does someone deal with this constant immoral, hurtful, mean and vindictive behavior? Let it roll of your back or what? On top of that, I am treated like the bad guy because I am sick of their childish behavior because they cant seem to get a life! They have too make mine as miserable as possible! So I lash back at them both with the cold hard truth.

What would you do if you were in my situation?

(ps. My ex and I have a child between us to which he in my eyes does not deserve)

Compatibility has nothing to do with age. A lot of the attraction here is lust-based. Passions can run high and over-bearing tendencies can surface but these passions must be mastered, so long as this can be achieved with dignity and choice. No attempt should be made to break the relationship's strongly independent spirit. This relationship will be like trying to tame a tiger.

Contention is likely to arise between you, since it will be extremely difficult for either of you to admit to mistakes. The end of a knock-down, drag-out argument may come in the form of exhaustion or an uneasy truce, but rarely of compromise or apology. Perhaps the most realistic approach is to agree to disagree, or at least to agree not to argue. Unfortunately, this will do little to help solve the relationship's problems. Hard work will be required to keep the channels of communication open and to move forward toward building acceptance and understanding.

Both of you are emotionally deep individuals who live in a world of complex feelings. The passionate aspect of an erotic relationship between you may well become an outlet for each of you to express such feelings, whether positive or negative, and your relationship may accordingly prove highly satisfying and even long-lasting. The control of tumultuous energies being so crucial here, however, strong emotions that threaten the relationship's stability will probably lead to its breakup. Even so, it may reach an intensity that both of you will remember for a lifetime. Should some kind of balance or direction of the determined and willful energies present here be possible, much can be achieved. But it will take a lot of effort on both sides.

The key to developing trust in this relationship may lie in the area of admitting mistakes and weaknesses. Any act of forgiveness here, any resistance to a tendency to blame or lay on guilt trips, may prove a major triumph. Ultimately, the taming of the tiger requires mutual respect, patience, and perserverance. Master-slave will not work. Balance those wayward energies.

I work with this wonderful Leo man, I adore his smile, he's so sweet. However, he is six years younger than me, he seems to be just as attracted to me.

Silly question, but is it wrong to date a much younger man? He has been making his way over to me more and more over the past few weeks. Walking by me, talking to me more and more, making me laugh. Though I am uncertain if I should continue to pursue him and let him pursue me. It doesn't feel wrong but he is so much younger..

Oh, he just has the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen. I am becoming quite partial to him.

Can you give me insight Captain please??

Should I let this continue?

Me: March 23, 1978

Him: August 11, 1984