i know i am strong enough but the truth is that i am unable to let go of this man! i dont know why am i behaving so stupidly. over the past few months i have struggled with my life so much. i have become the person i would never want to, done things i never would and all he has done is take advantage of me in everyway and treat me so badly!

sometimes it makes me so angry and i want to make him feel as bad as me. that's one of the reasons why i dont want to just walk away because i'll be letting him off easy. but then a part of me thinks that why should i destroy my life to make him feel bad and then another stupid part reasons telling that this is what will make him feel bad. i want to hate him so badly for everything that he is done to me. once upon a time he went mad convincing me he's not a player and now he just wants to hurt me even when i stay aloof!

like yesterday he pinged me online asking me to set him on a date with some girl when he knows that i dont know any single girls and what feelings i have for him and makes up stupid reasons to fight with me! he invites my friends and leaves me out and they all go out on a weekend! how can i carry on normally!! i hate him for this and i want to make him pay so badly.

its not like i dont have anyone else in my life. my ex boyfriend with whom i was for 4 years is one of the most amazing guys i have ever known but our long distance thing didnt work out properly. inspite of knowing this entire issue he still wants me back and supports me emotionally.

the irony of life is that you either love the wrong person or when the person is right, time is never with you

captain..my biggest fear in life is being left all alone. sometimes i think i am too too sensitive and that i have ruined my life for this man i loved so much. i even didnt get back with my ex who was an amazing guy because of this man. can you sense anything good for me who will share my life and be there for me always? i have recently had problems with finding a job and my thesis is suffering so badly as well because of all this. i despair too quickly. i think i'm too lost

i know captain...i have to let this go for my own good and move away so that i dont get affected. Can you sense anything for me? In general? like how my life is going to be? i am struggling with several issues at the moment and feel so bogged down

Dear Captain..please help me out. i am desperate and need your guidance anew. i have created a separate thread again

in my deepest heart i do believe and feel that if he decides to overcome his past and sort his head out and stops thinking relationships are a stress, we would have something very beautiful and fulfilling. sometimes i cannot watch him ruin his own life doing things not good for him. i love him too much

Dear TheCaptain, i require your help again..i have been doing my best to move on from this man and be just friends with him but he neither lets me move away nor come closer to him. he goes that extra mile to stay aloof from me and i feel he's playing a lot of mindgames. He takes me for granted and shares most of his problems with me. he flirts with all girls but me and refers to me as his good friend but when we are alone he doesn't behave like a friend to me. he now tells me that he wants only casual **** and one night stands and is not looking for anything long term and feels relationships are a stress. yet when i try to stay aloof from him he makes the craziest of excuses to meet up. he purposely tells me "he has stuff to do" because he knows i would get all curious and ask (but i dont anymore). His best friend and brother like me a lot but they dont seem to know much because he doesnt discuss his private life with anyone. sometimes when he gets moody he tells me i have all the negatives of a gf but not the positives. if am just a friend, why make these statements??further, he tells me not to expect anything from him nor does he expect anything from me but then adds that if i had used my "feminine" sense properly, we could have avoided all the arguments and unpleasantness and not pushed him so far away.

He's also told me that he has given me more chances than any friend or gf of his. During one of our fights when i was convincing him to be friends and not stop talking to me, he confessed for the first time openly that we have never ever been friends. though we officially dated only for a month..the remaining 6 months we were still dating even though we liked to call it as friends to avoid complications

Sometimes i feel that his head is so messed up from his past relationship that he just wants to have fun and relax for a bit but i dunno if at the end of it he'll come back to me when i have done evrything to keep him happy and he acknowledges this too and adds that i really do care about him a lot.

I cannot understand this guy at all but i really really want to know. i cant rest until i have it all figured out. i would love to know what's on his mind for me.

any help from you would be really appreciated.

Dear TheCaptain, i require your help again..i have been doing my best to move on from this man and be just friends with him but he neither lets me move away nor come closer to him. he goes that extra mile to stay aloof from me and i feel he's playing a lot of mindgames. He takes me for granted and shares most of his problems with me. he flirts with all girls but me and refers to me as his good friend but when we are alone he doesn't behave like a friend to me. he now tells me that he wants only casual sex and one night stands and is not looking for anything long term and feels relationships are a stress. yet when i try to stay aloof from him he makes the craziest of excuses to meet up. he purposely tells me "he has stuff to do" because he knows i would get all curious and ask (but i dont anymore). His best friend and brother like me a lot but they dont seem to know much because he doesnt discuss his private life with anyone. sometimes when he gets moody he tells me i have all the negatives of a gf but not the positives. if am just a friend, why make these statements??further, he tells me not to expect anything from him nor does he expect anything from me but then adds that if i had used my "feminine" sense properly, we could have avoided all the arguments and unpleasantness and not pushed him so far away. I cannot understand this guy at all but i really really want to know. i cant rest until i have it all figured out. i would love to know what's on his mind for me.

any help from you would be really appreciated.

i want to move on but it is so hard because of so much uncertainty. i cannot handle so much uncertainty and this entire complicated situation. i just want to unravel it and walk off for proper closure. my entire life is a mess. i cant concentrate on anything around me. i desperately need to get out of this asap

Dear Captain...i have finally decided to move on but it is so hard for me. This man has played a lot of games with me and put me in such a difficult spot. He just tried to keep me as a back up option. you already have his birth date..the girl he's trying to work it out her bdate is 7th october 1985..what exactly is happening? i'm tired of him messing my head up..please answer this query of mine and help me out. for some strange reason i feel that he's messing about with my head and expects me to wait for him lest things dont work out as he wants

it's my heart that wants things to happen but my gut feeling saying that i should wait for him to sort his head out. that's the thing..he's not even making false promises but being completely honest with me. how should i approach this entire situation so that i dont do the same mistakes his ex does which completely pisses him off? her bday is 7th october 1985. frankly speaking...it looks ver difficult of me letting go of him..i dont know why..how can i help myself??