Do you think I should just not call him ever again or answer his phone calls? Or is it naive of me to think that he might ever call me again anyways. I think I may have pushed this one away because I lack some sensitivity. I am an Aries so that is hard for me. But I want to be sensitive with this guy. Just not when there is another girl in the picture. He does not understand why I don't want to have sex with him. I think he is a loser and is just going back to something easy. I am so sad though because I love him.

OK he had me drop him off at that girls house last night to pick something up. BULL! I am soooo hurt and heartbroken. I feel like he made a decision right there and he did not choose me.

My heart is really aching. I always felt like I was going to know him for a really long time. I should have known this was coming.

Wow sexygem, I wish I would have read this a couple days ago. Yesterday I could not stop tripping about him living with a girl. And all my friends kept telling me he has to be sleeping with her. So I just saw him briefly and told him of my issue and he said she kicked him out two days ago because he told her about me. after inquiring why she would kick him out for that and he said its because she is still in love with him. I said "really? you happened to leave that little fact out". but he swears he told me that. Now i just dont believe him at all even though he no longer lives with her. He also said he would have a place by october and he really wants to be with me. How many other girls does he hang out with him that are in love with him??

I am dating a Cancer and it drives me nuts and then I come on here for advice but all I see are posts about how aggravating Cancers are. If you notice most of the posts are about Cancer men. Reading about all your experiences with Cancers scares me a lot but at the same time wants me to see what's going to happen with him.

Does anyone have issues with any other men than Cancer men??

They are soooooooo tenderly aggravating!

OK... He just told me he has a 5 year old son and did not want to tell me unless he knew he wanted to get more serious with me. And that is the reason he is always flaking and blowing me off.

umm.. ok?

I feel like this is a decision that has been forced upon me. He should have been straight forward with me in the beginning so that I could say yes or no to this situation before I got into it. Now I like him a lot and I just do not know what to do. I am a senior in college and also work and I have plans to move to India. But I really can't picture this guy not in my life, at least for right now. I just don't know if I can handle going forth with our relationship knowing that every decision I make doesn't just involve me and him but his son also. It's hard. Not to mention that just guarantees I will never get to see him as much as I would like. It wasn't a warming up, disappearing act. It was a 'let's see if this girl can fit into my life' and i feel like he didn't once ask 'can i fit into this girl's life?'

man I am pretty broken up right now. can't seem to think about much else.

I totally feel you on this one. I am an Aries currently falling for a Cancer but my first and forever love is a Cappy. He is so wonderful and will never ever leave my heart. The other day I was trying to decide if I want to try to forget about the Cappy forever and give my heart to the Cancer and while I was thinking that I just wished the Cappy was there to help me make that decision. haha. Cappy's are just such amazing people. My guy was so sensitive and intelligent and passionate, but sometimes I feel they can become very despondent. I love and miss my Cappy still.

ok this all makes soo much sense. I don't even know where to begin.

He just said to me like 10 minutes ago that he never knows what he is going to do from one moment to the next because the way he is feeling in always changing. But that he knows he likes having me as a constant. I'm thinking, "a constant for how long?" I am totally not going to trust this guy until he absolutely proves it.

The worst part is that he was living with his dad but they quarreled and didn't have anywhere to live so an ex of his 'took him in'. This was right before I started talking to him. He says not to worry they don't do anything and I am the only thing he thinks about all the time but when I asked to come over yesterday finally and meet her he was like no i dont want you to meet her. It kind of weirded me out. He said 'i'm an adult i can live with an ex without doing anything with her and i don't want to disrespect her by bringing in a new girlfriend or girl i'm seeing into her house.' Side note: supposedly he is trying to get his own place.

What do you think about all that?

I am a senior at a university, working, and have an active social life leaving barely any time for us to see each other. It makes me sad but I think it might be just a little bit short of enough time for him because he visited me at my school and my work in the past 3 days!

And we still haven't even slept together because we have nowhere to! haha.

Congratulations SexyGem.

These Cancers are all the freaking same, huh? Thanks again!!!!

So I'm definitely just doing my own thing. I'm not going to count on him at all which is kind of sad. He called me 3 times and of course when I called him back he said he wants to see me tonight - i said maybe (im never making set plans with him again). but i have a feeling hes just not going to come through...why does he make so much effort to talk to me just to pull away at the last minute anyways??

It's awesome you all know each other on here! haha I am excited to log on to see if there's more advice waiting for me!

Oh my god! He totally flaked out on me yesterday, no call. He so did a back step and went into hiding didn't he? And I am somewhat leery as to what he is doing when I'm not around, and what his true intentions are (even though he says over and over he wants to know me for a really long time). It really bums me out but at the same time I can't see myself not in his life, or him in mine. With most guys I would definitely get away from them if they flaked on me the first time but for some reason I feel like working on my lack of patience.

So, what do you guys think I should do now?

Call him today and see if I can get through?

Wait for a couple of days to call him, meanwhile waiting to see if he calls me?

or

Don't call him - or accept his calls for a couple days and then play it by ear?

grrrrrrrrrr

I'm not used to waiting around for someone...especially a guy! haha. but I really dig him when he's around.

If something attracts you to her despite her not being your usual 'hottie' it might mean the relationship could turn into something a little deeper than maybe you are used to. I would court this girl! Why are you trying to get her out of your head?