MadQueen - Thank you so much (and thank your friend) for the "Being Safe" article. Really good advice. Thanks again.
Bakergrl - LOL (not at, but with) about the credit thing. I can relate. My credit was excellent until I got married. So much uglines here, I don't want to even think about it. It makes my blood boil. I should have let the you know what hit the fan when he embezzeled company money instead of scrounging the money to replace it. Or turned him in when I found the cocaine in his pockets. Instead I dumped it out in the trash. Live and learn, I guess. One thing when you get a bit of bad credit though, beware because they will try to attach everything that comes up under a name even similar to yours to you. This has been my experience. Be sure to do the 'Opt Out' thing. It will help. We'll get back on our feet eventually.
LibrasLair - Yep! Being single 'ain't so bad.' A bad day single is far better than a bad day married. I wish I had had the sense to realize it when I was younger. There's SO much less stress now. I loved your post.
Now for something I haven't wanted to say, but feel more and more impressed that I must so others will be aware: The guy I dated for three years not only had hidden cameras, he also gave me an incurable STD. (No, not AIDS, thank God!) (Thus, my reclusiveness.) Never once did he tell me he had it and when I initially wondered if he had given me something and asked him about it he turned the tables and asked me if I had potentially exposed him to something! When I specifically asked if he had something, he denied it. Yet, of course, in retrospect, there were signs -- though ever so small -- along the way. (A supplement he took, etc.) I was foolish and took him at his word. Only to find out later that he had given me HSV2. I was essentially asymptomatic (all I ever got was a small bump that went away after a few days -- not like what they describe in the pamphlets, etc.) and did not know I had it until about two years later. Sooo... my advise to everyone is this: Do not, in any way, become involved with someone until you both go and get tested for HPV, HSV, HIV, Syphillis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Hepatitis. Often people get some of these and don't even know they have them. Or the symptoms are so insignificant, it doesn't register as to what it is. So please, please, get tested first and share your results with each other. If he/she is not willing to share with you or says he/she was tested already don't pursue the relationship. (So what if they were tested three months ago. Who knows who they've been with since then!) If he/she is not willing to be open and honest, walk away then and there. BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY.
Ktex - I don't know if we can actually name names. Therefore, I will give some initials. The above guy was BRP. Also beware of a DC, sometimes going by TDC. My ex was always very proud of the fact that his initials spelled the name of a certain ethnic group. One of the 'undesirables' from the past site had intials of DD, and the hacker's site name started with B and ended with 9. The false female's site name he used had the initials of LLL. There was someone else on there who also contacted me, then showed up on my Address List (so 'she' -- if that is indeed the case -- had to have bypassed their site). Her site name starts with a R and ends with a zero. There were a few others, but their site names elude me at the moment.
Sooo, even if it means humiliating myself, now others know. Hopefully, it will spare some having to go through the same pain.