Thanks for that, Eightgems, although l wonder if 'hijacked' isn't a little too strong a word to use.
l had no intention whatsoever of upsetting you by posting here; as you might have guessed l simply wanted the benefit of Hanswolfgang's advice (as he & l had corresponded with each other in the past).
But l doubt that you are going thru the same thing as l am. - l'd like to thank Hanswolfgang for his post, but, with 'no love' in the future for me, now l have nothing to lose!
Good luck in the future, Eightgems,