Flowsco, I see your frustrations.
Look at it this way, as a Libra he is completely unaware that he is behaving like a typical Libra - because their nature is to avoid any deeper analysis of why they behave the way they do.
As a Scorpio, you are now a Professor of Libra traits, just like me, but you are also a master strategist - you need to get creative.
Scorpios need to know every last detail of why things happen the way they do. SO you and me both are bursting with knowledge and we know (or think we know) exactly what the other person needs to do to get themselves out of the situation they are in. Right?
I feel like an icing (Frosting, US?) bag stuffed full of sweet sugary nice stuff and I'm trying to decorate the most delicate, beautiful cake but the nozzle is so fine if I squeeze too hard the bag will explode.
Part of my "creative manipulation" of events has been to make sure there is some feedback, one way or the other, and it sounds to me like you are missing this element? e.g. we don't just run into each other by chance - I make the contact happen and it's hard work to do it. If I didn't she would have forgotton me a long time ago. The trick is to make it look like chance but it's all scripted and worked out to happen the way it does.
Sometimes I go too far and the shutters go up again. Other times I get it just right and there is a little reward for me. You need to find a way, somehow, of obtaining this feedback. If the only way is via a third party then so be it, make use of it as that's the opportunity you have been looking for, don't see it as a negative. If you need to get devious to get the feedback then I'm sure your Scorpio skill will figure something out. I did, but I'm not telling what it was
If there is no feedback at all then you may as well be trying to woo Elvis.
Remember, any hidden agenda that third party has will never be as powerful as your Scorpio agenda. Unless perhaps they are a another strong Scorpio. I had the same thing happen to me and came up against one so I backed off, but only after I played it for all it was worth and picked up some valuable info / positioning.
Sometimes you can sacrifice a little of your pride or allow somone to think they have got one over you if it it means you get the positioning you want. I basically allowed a third party to make a monkey of me but they didn't know half of what I was upto. SO now I have opportunity for obtaining a little more feedback. Do you see where I'm going with this? In effect I'm creating a bubble around her so she can sail along on smooth waters but all the time I'm directing the action as much as I can.
It all helps release the pressure on the icing bag - so I can be sure that I'm not pushing too hard. The nozzle will never get any larger no matter how hard you squeeze.
What's the objective of all this? Well I read somewhere that Libra's only make deep friendships with people they really trust and take a long long time to get to that point, so maybe one or two friends so close they share everything about themselves with them.
This is true of her, (and of course I'm now friends with both of them!!). Neither of these friends is Male because she doesn't trust men at all. My conclusion is that the only way she will ever get the relationship she want's is by having it with a true male friend and I don't see that ever happening for her because I know how much effort it takes to get into that position. I know she has basically resigned herself to the fact that she will never find what she is looking for unless it magically turns up out of the blue one day. Or I do it.
The result of all my plotting? Well she's coming to help me decorate my new house soon (Libra's are good at that sort of thing), and she thinks it was her idea. Of course I don't need the help but she doesn't have to know that does she Build the friendship first, it appears to be working........remember she slammed the door very, very hard not so long ago.
So that patience you are practising, make sure it's only on the surface. Be a steam train underneath. When people talk about striking the balance with a Libra I think this is what it's all about. You need to be working harder than ever before to make it work but at the same time be seen to be doing nothing at all.
I'm rooting for you.