So, my Gem friend has been flirting with me for months now and people have commented on whether we fancy each other. I was kind of getting frustrated because I like him too so just recently we hung out and he was saying inappropriate things to me (I currently have a longterm boyf).....I just wanted to know what was happening so asked him and he tells me that he's liked me for ages etc....
He kept going on about how he wants to settle down and get married etc....this was freaking me out!!!! He was also telling me how I'm not like any other girl he has met before and that he feels he can really open up to me and how he enjoys spending time with me etc... So I felt really good in how he was complementing me.
However the dilema is that I currently have a boyf. So anyway my head is all over the place and I'm considering breaking up with my boyf....not to be with the Gemini though even though I like him a lot.
So anyways I send him an e-mail because neither us mentioned what happened and are basically pretending that it didn't happen. I just tell him that I like him etc..... He tells me that we should get together to talk about it. This is when I start to sense that he is backing off and being a weirdo.
So when we have the talk i'm telling him that I'm thinking about breaking up with my boyf and I think this completley freaks him out and he is just so brutally honest which I like and respect because I know where I stand. But he starts telling me that he thinks that i like him more than he likes me which i don't think is true, and that nothing is going to happen between us at this moment in time and that I need to go out and see other guys etc...and he said we'll see what happens in the future. (I have been with my cap boyf for 7 years). Which is all rational and I agree but I guess I want to know how he feels about me, he is reluctant to tell me and keeps telling me that he doesn't want to be responsible for breaking me and my boyf up which I tell him he is no way responsible. I also think he feels really guilty about being a bit shady.
So yeah he basically shrugs me off and all the drama that has been occurring as if he meant none of what he said. Telling me that he enjoys his own company and doesn't want a girlfriend.
So yeah I guess after our talk I felt better in that I know where I stand now and can concentrate on the issue of whether I really still want to be in my relationship and not have to think about this other Gem dude.
So after the talk I saw him that evening and basically said to him you know you are so right we should just focus on being friends and thats all I want. I told him that I felt really good about the things he had said and that I think he had been quite mature in not pressuring me about my current boyf. He was really understanding and said I need to think about what I really want.
He then was quite quiet with me and kept looking over at me I'm trying to avoid this....I came to the decision that I wasn't going to chase this guy around if someone wants to be with me I want them to be certain about it and kind of also make a stand and go for it. I definatley respect a guy who is assertive.
So I have it set in my mind that nothing is going to happen and maybes want a bit of space from him too, however he resorted back to randomly texting me with his flirty comments and I'm confused as to whether I should be replying to him, I don't want to blank him as he is one of my good friends but at the same time I don't want to be playing some silly game hmmmmmmmm